Yes, Life IS like a Roller Coaster

Have you ever been on a roller coaster?  I bet you have. So have I and I gotta say this using a very over used cliche’ …..

Life is like a roller coaster.

 

Sometimes you gotta wait and be patient just like that big hill at the beginning of the roller coaster. You know the one. The whole car clicks it’s way up, up, up and you’re just waiting for it to stop cause you know you’re going to be hurled down the hill into who knows what. Maybe the car drops 30 feet only to rise up again on another hill.  Sometimes the car lurches from side-to-side in tight turns that jerk your whole body to and fro.  The car could also go in a loop-de-loop and the horizon turns upside down  and you get to see the world from an all wonky new perspective.

 

You can’t really know what you’re going to experience until you step into that car and strap yourself in.

 

What you do know though is that you’re going to have fun. You aren’t in control and you may not know what is going to happen next, but it’s ok. .

 

And that’s what life feels like sometimes.

 

Since moving back to Albuquerque and many other times in my life, there have been ups and downs and twists and turns along the way which I never would have imagined. I love my life and am grateful for all the crazy stuff I have experienced along the way. I’m glad my life is like a roller coaster.

 

So here’s the deal: We don’t know what our lives are going to bring.  We can plan, but really, we can’t know for certain.

 

For example, recently, I’ve been planning on going on the road with R. in the truck for an adventure. I’ve been looking so forward to this, packing and planning and getting myself all ready to go. I even bought these crazy funnel things that…..  ha ha…(I’ll share that story on my other blog Adventures of a Curly Girl)

 

Anyway, a couple of days ago, one of my cats started to act funny.  Not bad funny, but not like himself which has me concerned.  I’ve been keeping an eye on him and so far, so good, but if he’s not totally back to his usual awesome cat self by the time R. leaves, then I will stay home with him until he recuperates.

 

And there it is…just like a roller coaster with an unexpected turn. I may not be getting on the road with R. as soon as I had hoped. It’s ok though.

Life IS a roller coaster.

Might as well enjoy the ride!

XOXO

 

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Choices and Alignment

Choices and Alignment

 

Recently, I had to make a choice:  walk away from something that wasn’t aligned with me or stay and try to make the best of it even though I felt terrible.  I waffled back and forth because I didn’t want to hurt anyone (including myself) and making that decision wasn’t pleasant, but I had to because the thing wasn’t in alignment with who I am, my life and my goals.

 

Leading up to my decision, I had felt that I needed to stay and help and push the thing into alignment. What a crazy thing to do, right?

 

I don’t know much, but I know this:

 

You cannot force the Universe

Or situations

Or people

Into alignment.

 

And I tried. I really did try.

 

I had been staying  and pushing even though my intuition was screaming at me to run away because I was feeling worse and worse everyday. (and I do not like feeling bad)

 

SO I made the choice and well, now I’m dealing with the consequences of that choice.

 

And while I do feel better today because it’s all said and done now, there is part of me that feels bad because I unintentionally hurt someone and for that I am sorry.

 

Now what does this have to do with the Law of Attraction?

 

Vibrations and Alignment

 

Since I started to study the Law of Attraction, I’ve gotten really good at feeling my vibration and the vibrations of the people around me. Being an empath also helps with this and with a bit of practice, my sensitivity to these vibrations has gotten really fine tuned so when I am around people or situations that are not at the same frequency that I vibrate at, I feel it with every ounce of my being.

 

Now, I realize I can’t change the vibrations of other people or situations.  I try to deal with them as they are as best I can.  I offer help and well, in this situation, I tried to do the best I could to help raise the vibration.

 

It was no use though so I had to make a choice: Stay or Leave.

 

After months of banging my head against the wall, feeling totally miserable, I realized that I couldn’t stay because I know deep down I can only handle so much negative vibration from others.  As an empath, I feel what other people feel even when I don’t want to.  It’s a great thing and a shitty thing all at the same time.

 

So my questions for you are do you stay in a situation that feels vibrationally  bad or wrong? Or do you walk away?  Do you try to fix the situation or person who isn’t vibrating at the same frequency as you?  Or do you remove yourself from the situation?

 

I have to say that making that choice, while it was hard, was the best thing for me to do for me right now. I feel more aligned with the Universe again.

 

So in sum, it’s all about choice.  What you choose. Do you listen to your intuition or ignore it?

Who do you choose to surround yourself with and how do you feel when you are around them?

What situations do you choose to be in and how do you feel when you are in them?

 

It’s all about choices and alignment.

xoxo

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Beer and The Law of Attraction

What does beer have to do with the Law of Attraction? Let me tell you a little story. Recently my boyfriend went back out driving a big ass semi-truck and since he started his latest job, he never knows what he’s going to be hauling.  For the past few weeks since he started the job, we’ve been joking about what he could be potentially carrying in his trailer and it’s always such a thrill and a surprise when we find out. Like could it be toilet paper? Canned soup?  Onions?

 

We never know and that’s half the fun of this little game we play.

 

Now we both love the old Smokey and the Bandit movies cause well, we grew up back in the 70’s  and we both have fond memories of them. Of course, given that Renee is a truck driver, hauling beer would be like the ultimate throw back and it would give us a chance to sing “East Bound and Down” to our hearts content. (It’s my favorite song to sing when he’s on the road)

 

So what in the hell does any of this have to do with

The Law of Attraction?

 

Well, for the past month or so since he accepted this job, we’ve been joking and talking about him hauling beer.

 

Yes, beer.

 

I love beer so I used to say to him, “Hey, wouldn’t it be soo cool if you got to haul some beer!”

 

He’d always laugh and say, “Hell yes. Hauling beer would be awesome!”

 

So as the past month rolled by, we both  kept thinking and talking about him getting to chauffeur some kegs or maybe a case or too around. We’d laugh and giggle about it, dreaming about a huge 53ft trailer full of beer. (Can you imagine it?  I can and it makes me happy just thinking about it!)

 

The point here is that the idea (and my dream) of his truck being full to the max of cases of beer was on our minds and well, it was something we both ‘wanted’ and thought would be super cool if it manifested.

 

And then it happened.

 

He ended up hauling beer!

 

Just this week, his trailer was full of 2100 cases of beer!  Do you have any idea how much beer that is? It’s like 44,000 lbs or…..50,000 bottles!!  Holy fuck…that is more beer than…. Oh, my heart, it fills with joy to imagine it!

 

Sorry about that. Let me get back on point here since I was knee deep in a crazy fizzy alcohol fueled fantasy….

 

Now I believe what happened with the beer and my boyfriend illustrates so perfectly how when we are playful and happy, in a good state of mind and vibrating at a high frequency, the Universe responds to us more easily and readily than it does when we are vibrating at a lower frequency.

 

See, Renee and I were not worrying about how the beer might get loaded onto his truck. We weren’t wishing it would happen, lamenting that he might not get to haul some happy adult beverages or saying stuff like, “OMG, you have to haul beer and always have it in the trailer!!!  If you don’t haul some brews, our lives will be miserable and suck.”

 

We were just laughing and giggling about it, totally happy and voila!

 

He gets to haul beer.

 

The takeaway here is what you say, what you think and how you are feeling ALL has an influence on The Law of Attraction and what you manifest into your life.

 

When you sit down with your big list of dreams, wants, wishes and desires, do you feel happy or sad?  Is there a sense of lack or a sense of abundance?  Do you have fun with manifesting or does it just seem impossible?

 

I can’t answer these questions for you. Only you can.

 

So…have fun dreaming your dreams. Giggle and laugh your way through manifesting everything you want. Don’t worry about the how or the why.  Know that the thing you want is on it’s way.

The Universe loves you.

Xoxox

 

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Boundaries and The Bottom Line

Boundaries and the Bottom Line

(aka:  why I won’t work for free anymore)

 

Recently someone said to me something about boundaries and it got me thinking about them, the kind others have and the ones I have for myself.

 

Boundaries, limits, the proverbial line in the sand. What do you allow?  What is acceptable and what is not acceptable?

 

And this year, I am setting some serious boundaries with myself and my business both as a writer and producer.

 

Why? Because it’s time.

 

As I look over my past, I realize that by not setting boundaries, I have not honored myself. I’ve not appreciated and placed a high enough value on my skills and talents, and by doing so, I have suffered both emotionally and financially.

 

Let me explain. For many years, I would get a job offer and I would just take it, no matter what the pay was or the job. I did not place much value on my skills and abilities so I never asked for much. I was also taught to just take what you can get and just deal with it. “Make do,” as my mother would say. As a result, I ended up working for people who had no respect for me and who treated me as such.

 

In all of those years, I felt used and quite terrible about it.  I never really knew why because I never thought about it much. It all felt really wrong though. I was told to work hard and just do my job so I did just that for years on end.  Another phenomenon that I experienced during that was was regarding the quality of my work. The better my work was, the more work they gave me. Not pay, not respect, just more work.

 

And I get it. I was easy to take advantage of back then because I didn’t know any better.  I thought that maybe this was the way the world worked.

 

Now, a few years ago, I began to experience an awakening of sorts.  Maybe that wasn’t the way the world worked. I started writing full time, I started a business and I left my previous career behind me….

 

Or so I thought.

 

As I stepped into a more creative role and found my tribe, I’ve found such joy and happiness. I can’t imagine not being in this business, doing what I do now, writing and creating cool and amazing stuff cause deep down, it feels right and I love it.

 

What doesn’t feel right at this moment, however, is the fact that I keep allowing people to take advantage of me, my generosity, skills and talent.

 

Yes, I am taking responsibility for allowing it to happen because I am nice and I want to help as many people as I can be successful and live the life of their dreams. I’ve spent hours working on projects for people and not asked for money because I trusted them and believed that they valued me and my work and eventually, they would pay me. I was always afraid to bring up money and ask for money.

 

How very wrong I have been.

 

My time is precious to me. When I spend time working for someone be it as a writer or a producer or director and I don’t get paid, it hurts me…emotionally and financially.  When I think about all of the hours I have spent using my creativity and skills to help someone create or promote or make something awesome, I get angry because had they hired someone else, they would have paid them.

 

So….when I think about hiring someone to do something for me, no matter what it is, I want to pay them because they have spent time and used their skill and talent to help me in some way. I would never expect a plumber or mechanic to work on my house or my car for free.  What makes it ok to not pay someone (aka me) who is creating something for someone else to use to better their life or business?  Creative writing is work and it has value.

 

 

So with that being said, I am not going to work for free anymore. My time is valuable. My skills, abilities and creativity are valuable. I cannot pay my bills with ” thank you’s” and “I appreciate you”.  I am valuable and what I do creatively has value.

 

If you want to hire me, great, however, from this moment forward, do not expect me to work for free.  I will speak up, write a contract and ask to be paid. I am drawing my line in the sand and setting a boundary.

And that’s the bottom line.

 

Have You Found Easy Street?

Easy Street!  Have you heard of Easy Street?  There’s a song from the musical Annie called Easy Street. It’s pretty funny, but it’s not the kind of Easy Street I am talking about.

 

I love a different kind of Easy Street.  I do. That’s not to say that I don’t like challenges cause I like those too, but not everything has to be hard. Difficult. Insurmountable, does it?

 

So why am I bringing this up today.  Easy Street.

 

Well, it’s because I was having a conversation with my mom a few days ago and she started to talk about working hard. How she and my father have worked hard their whole lives. Then she started to talk about how hard is it to have a successful business and how hard it is to make money.

 

Anyone else ever hear these sentiments from well-meaning family or friends?

 

“Making money is hard”

“Life is hard.”

“You have to sacrifice your happiness and joy to get anywhere in life”

 

I really have an issue with these statements because I used to agree with them. I was brought up to believe that life had to be hard and a constant struggle. I worked myself to craziness and well, it wasn’t much fun.

 

What changed?

 

Me. My mindset.

I changed my mindset.

So how does that work?

 

Well, by changing our mindset and choosing ease over difficulty. By choosing to change those statements and forming our own new ones that reflect our change in mindset.

For example

Life is hard, becomes Life is easy.

Making money is hard, becomes Making money is easy.

 

It’s such a simple shift, but it makes all the difference in the world.

 

When I learned this lesson, I swear that things really did become easy.

 

I found Easy Street.

 

When I needed to finish a project, it was easy and I finished it quicker than I could have imagined.

 

Like just this week, I was working on a proposal for a PSA. Now in the past, I would have thought “OMG, this is soooo hard. How can I finish this in less than a week? I’m not going to finish.”

 

I didn’t tell myself that this time though. When I started to write both the script and the proposal, I said “This is going to be a piece of cake. Writing this proposal is going to be easy and I will finish it way before the deadline.”

 

And guess what happened!

 

I did finish it, 2 days before the proposal was due (and it’s damn good if I do say so myself)!

 

Do YOU want to live on Easy Street?

xoxox

Tobi

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Changing Direction

Changing Direction

Well, it’s time to change direction here at A Dream Created Life.

 

Let me tell you why.

 

So it’s early here and I’m looking at my website and the e-courses I wrote and have for sale right now. Now don’t get me wrong, I love this site and I’m so proud and happy with what I was working on back then like a year ago.

 

But that was then, this is now.

 

Anyway, I wrote and sold those two courses over a year ago.  They’re good and I’m proud of them, but I want to change direction with the kinds of courses I want to write and share with the world.

 

So with that said, I’m going to offer a sell off of these jam packed really awesome courses in the next couple of weeks.  Basically, you can get all of my old courses “Break the Bank” and “What Are You Worth” for one price. Think of it as a two for one special!

 

Two for One!

 

Each course is valued at $30.00  a piece, but you will be able to get BOTH courses for $25.00.

 

Want to learn more about the courses, head on over to their pages following the links above.

 

Then I’ll be pulling them off the website until maybe in the future I re-release them..or not. Who knows.

 

Why am I doing this?

 

Because I am. I have other things I want to create and share with the world.  Other better and more improved courses.  I loved those courses, but I have others in my head that I’d like to write and share.

 

Now, with that being said, to get the special one time only sale price on these fabulous courses, please sign up below for my mailing list cause that’s where I’m going  to announce the sale.

 

And on that note, everyone have a fabulous day!

xoxox

 

 

 






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Happy New Year! What do you want?

Happy New Year!

Well, we did it, folks! One more year around the sun and we’re all still here!  Happy New Year!! Woo hoo!  Give yourself a pat on the back and get ready for another whirlwind of a ride!  2017 is going to be awesome!  Hell, it already is!

Yay for 2017!

This morning, the love of my life, Renee, wrote in his blog about what he wants in 2017. It was so good that it inspired me to write this blog  and share what it is that I want in 2017.

Now earlier this morning I got out a brand new journal that I’ve been saving for some reason and started my master list of dreams and desires. Yep, it’s a new year, time for a new journal and a new list.

New Year, New Journal

A few years ago, I started to write down what I want everyday and amazingly, most of the things I’ve been putting down in these journals have been coming true.  Yea, it’s a pretty cool thing when you start to manifest what you want. I love that about the Law of Attraction!

Anywho…..what is on my master list for 2017.  What do I want to do?  Who do I want to become?  What do I want to have?  Pretty much everything I want goes into that journal.  Everyday.  Sometimes the list changes a bit, but it’s always there. It’s one of the things I do in my Law of Attraction practice.

So What Do I Want in 2017?

  1. Sell a full length feature screenplay
  2. Write, direct and produce at least 3 short films
  3. Get said films into at least 3 film festivals
  4. Get hired to write for a TV show as a staff writer
  5. Be healthier (and back to my fighting weight)
  6. Finish the house (even the kitchen)
  7. Laugh everyday and make others laugh as well
  8. Travel to the UK and Australia and ?
  9. Fly first class
  10. Pay off all debts
  11. Help as many people as I can live the life of their dreams
  12. Write at least 3 more books and publish them
  13. Get a publishing deal
  14. Launch another podcast
  15. Get into the Screen Actor’s Guild and Producer’s Guild of America
  16. Skydive at least once
  17. Spend everyday in creative flow
  18. Start riding a motorcycle
  19. Get on the stage and do stand up comedy
  20. Live my life to the absolute fullest!

So there you have it. 20 of the things I want to do, be and have in 2017.  I am excited and happy to check off as many of them as I can!  Woo hoo! It’s going to be fun for sure!

So what do you want in the new year?  What’s on your list?

xoxox

Celebrate Everything

It’s that time of year again.  The holidays are here and it’s time to gather with friends and family to celebrate.  Celebrate everything. Seriously. Have fun.  Drink the egg nogs, eat the cookies and have yourself a merry time indeed!

It’s party time!!!

That’s what I plan on doing.  December is usually a pretty low key month for me. I tend to be like a bear and hibernate a bit in between all of the holiday hoopla and insanity. I do some writing, but really, I spend more time reflecting back on the past twelve months, celebrating the wins and dissecting the losses.

This December has been no different and when I look back on 2016, all I can say is WOW!  Holy shit!  I did all that this year?

Yep…I did.  I manifested it all.

So What Did I Do All Year?

From e-courses, blogs, two books and countless scripts and screenplays that have yet to be shot and unleashed on the world, it has been a most productive year indeed.  I made a film in 48 hours with some friends of mine for the 48 hour film project and  started a production company, Risa Tortuga Productions.  I also wrote and directed my first ever short film and I have had the honor to help a dear friend bring one of her goals to life in the form of a podcast talk show, Women, Wit and Wine.

So….I sit here in amazement of my life yet again. Happiness and joy floods my heart cause I went for it, wholeheartedly to create and embrace the career that I have always wanted, self employed writer/movie maker. Best part of all of this is I’m  just getting started.  Next year is going to be even more productive. I can’t wait to share it all with you.

I also manifested the love of my life.  Funny how that one popped up when I was least expecting it, but I did at some point earlier this year write down everything that I wanted in a lover/boyfriend and the Universe brought him to me.  (Actually, he had been around for a while, I just needed to recognize and acknowledge him.) He’s so super cool and my best friend which I am super thankful for. He writes a blog too (The Many Sides of Renee) and is getting ready to release a book soon (when I get off my bum and finish editing it…ha ha ha).

Anyway, I digress.

Anything is possible. You just need to believe.  Believe you are worthy. Believe you deserve the thing you desire.  Take action and little steps…..

And celebrate.  Get your party on. Do what makes you happy and revel in it.

xoxox

 

It’s Ok to Not Know

July was a crazy month for me.  So much happened in one month and now that it’s August, I feel like I’m trying to find my footing again.  I don’t feel lost per se, but I do feel like there are a billion things to do and I gotta choose just one.   Just one!  And I do not know which one to choose…..Bahh….

I feel like Indiana Jones  when he has to pick one cup from the others and it’s gotta be the right one or …well, if you’ve seen the movie, you know what happens.

So how do I choose?  How do I choose the right project to focus on?

Maybe this is the universe telling me that it’s ok to not know right now and to take some time off and get back to  my groovy happy zone and flow.

Last month was such a whirlwind of ups and downs. Between movie shoots, trips to the lake, my directorial debut and a bunch of other personal things,  the dust from all of that excitement and adventure has settled and I sort of don’t know what to do. Of course, I have a huge laundry list of shit to take care of and I know what I should be doing, but honestly, I don’t feel like doing any of it right now. Why that is, I have no idea and that is ok.

I give myself permission to not know.

It is ok to not know and not have all of the answers all of the time. Sometimes I need to sit and feel what I need to do next.  I know, sounds crazy, but it’s true.  Ever since I started to lead my business and my writing with my heart instead of my head, it’s gone so much smoother and has been better overall.

My scripts will always be here, waiting patiently for me to work on them. The rest of the business stuff, it will be here too. I know this is temporary and shall pass because it always does.

xoxo

 

 

How Did I Get Here

How did I get here?

 

I used to wonder if I got ‘here’ by accident or if it was my own doing.

 

And ‘here’…where is ‘here’ exactly?

 

Well, ‘here’ is my home. My house, in my office with the computer, surrounded by two of my cats who insist on ‘helping’ me work (eg walking about on my desk, sitting on my mouse pad and staring at me while I type).

 

‘Here’ means other things as well.

 

I now work for myself creating and doing what I want to do.

 

I no longer punch a clock every day and work in a lab. I don’t spend all day on the phone chasing leads and pitching strangers. I also do not walk around a sales floor, chatting with customers to help them find what they need in the shop.

 

‘Here’ is freedom.

‘Here’ is openness.

‘Here’ is mine.

 

See, just over two years ago, my journey to ‘here’ really began when I found myself unemployed again and struggling to understand how in the hell I managed to get myself fired….again. I was a good employee. I had skills and did a good job, yet I was no longer wanted. I was labeled trouble and sent on my way.

 

Truth is though, I never liked that job or the people I worked for or with so really, it was a blessing to get fired.

 

Yes, I hated my job….

 

Now what does that have to do with ‘here’…..

 

Well, I felt like I was in a sort of free fall after being let go….a ‘what the fuck do I do now with my life?’ now sort of place.

 

And I had questions….Why did this happen again? What part did I play? What did I do wrong and right? How can I make my life better in the future? And so forth and so on….

 

As I sought to answer those questions, I discovered the Law of Attraction through a movie of all things, ‘ The Secret’ and I wondered……

 

Could this be the answer? Have I been manifesting all of my life and not knowing it? Bringing things into my life that I didn’t necessarily want (or did I?)

 

I hated that job and for months would ruminate on getting fired….
then it happened!

 

When I made that connection, it was like someone opened the dark clouds and the sun shone directly on me.

 

So what did I do next?

 

I studied, I learned. I applied what I learned about the Law of Attraction.

 

And now, well I’m ‘here’…..

 

When I look back over the past 2 years, I have manifested so many awesome things in my life. Things that I never would have thought possible back when I was still punching a clock.

 

For example:

 

I haven’t had a regular job in over 2 years.
I work from home.
I work for myself.
I set my schedule.
Money shows up when I need it.
I create and write and do what I want to do.
I study and am trying to learn as much as I can.

 

I live the Law of Attraction!

 

And you can too!

 

You can create your own ‘here’, whatever that may be. It’s your life.

 

Where are you? Do you like where you are?

 

If you aren’t happy with your ‘here’, learn how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want in my latest e-course, Dream It! Feel It! Have It!

XOXO,

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