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6 Tips to Using Your Authentic Voice
Everyone has a truth inside of them. Call it their authentic voice. It’s one of the things which makes us unique as individuals. We all come from different backgrounds and life experiences which have made their indelible mark on who we have become today. Every single person on this earth has a voice.
Society has taught so many of us to quell and quiet that voice in order to fit in, to get along and be successful. Is this right and what can do about it? How can we fully express who we are when we have been taught not to?
Before I knew what it meant to use my authentic voice, I spent a lot of time staying quiet. I’d bite my lip hoping no one would notice I had something to say. Inside, my soul was screaming at the top of my lungs. All of those times when I didn’t speak up, I’d feel bad for weeks….or months. Misery was my best friend. For years, I kept quiet about how I felt about many things. One of the biggest things I never spoke about was how I felt I made a mistake by choosing the profession I had at the time.
I felt I couldn’t really express myself out of fear. In whatever job I was in at the time, I learned to keep my head down and not speak up when something could be improved or there was a problem. Every so often when I just couldn’t take being quiet any longer, I would open my mouth and express my opinion or truth about something. Usually I was trying to make things better for not just myself, but for my coworkers as well.
Those moments when I did open my mouth and use my authentic voice to share my truth, though they were few and far between, made me feel powerful, unstoppable and the most alive. Eventually, I got honest with myself and began having more and more of them. Ultimately that journey of learning to express myself honestly, fueled by my dreams and led by my heart, I finally quit my career of 17 years and set out building my own business based on what I really wanted to do with my life and not what other people wanted me to. I stepped into the role of creative and found my authentic voice.
What Is Your Authentic Voice?
At the core of your authentic voice is you, your mind, body and spirit. It’s the voice in your head which is filled with dreams and desires. It is the one that doesn’t listen to what other people say or tell you what to do or how to live. At the very core, your authentic voice is the primal part of you which is untouchable by the outer world and society at whole.
How Can You Use Your Authentic Voice?
Opening up and using your authentic voice may seem like a tall order, a big scary crazy thing. It can seem overwhelming which is why I believe most people never find theirs and use it. Sometimes when you start living your truth, part of that is using your authentic voice, you might experience fear and anxiety.
Get Connected with your voice
Part of being connected with your authentic voice involves spirit or soul. We all have desires burning holes in our chest. Dig deep and write them down.
At the core of your authentic voice is truth and honesty. Start by being honest with yourself first and others second (as it pertains to your truth). Being honest with ourselves can seem like an easy and simple thing, but it can sometimes be harder than it looks. I had a hard time admitting to myself that I did not like working in the lab and I really wanted to write and make films.
Begin by sharing just a little bit of your new truth with a few people. As you get more comfortable, you may (or may not) want to share with more people. It is completely up to you. When I first started to us my voice, I told a few of my friends what I was up to months after I had started to use my authentic voice.
Let Fear Pass
Fear may show up as you start using your authentic voice. Know that it’s temporary and the more you speak your truth, your fear will start to dissipate. Don’t let fear stop you in your tracks and keep using your authentic voice.
Handle Criticism with Ease and Grace
If you encounter people who criticize you, bless them and move on. Sometimes when we start to use our authentic voice, our closest friends weird out and may treat us like we’ve lost our minds. They do that because they are used to you being a certain way. When you change, it may make them uncomfortable. Their behavior has nothing to do with you so you can write it off. Bless them and move on.
As you start expressing yourself more fully using your authentic voice, take a bit of time to celebrate. You deserve it! You’ve begun using your authentic voice which is huge! It may not seem like it some days, but it is, so do something nice for yourself.