Beer and The Law of Attraction

What does beer have to do with the Law of Attraction? Let me tell you a little story. Recently my boyfriend went back out driving a big ass semi-truck and since he started his latest job, he never knows what he’s going to be hauling.  For the past few weeks since he started the job, we’ve been joking about what he could be potentially carrying in his trailer and it’s always such a thrill and a surprise when we find out. Like could it be toilet paper? Canned soup?  Onions?

 

We never know and that’s half the fun of this little game we play.

 

Now we both love the old Smokey and the Bandit movies cause well, we grew up back in the 70’s  and we both have fond memories of them. Of course, given that Renee is a truck driver, hauling beer would be like the ultimate throw back and it would give us a chance to sing “East Bound and Down” to our hearts content. (It’s my favorite song to sing when he’s on the road)

 

So what in the hell does any of this have to do with

The Law of Attraction?

 

Well, for the past month or so since he accepted this job, we’ve been joking and talking about him hauling beer.

 

Yes, beer.

 

I love beer so I used to say to him, “Hey, wouldn’t it be soo cool if you got to haul some beer!”

 

He’d always laugh and say, “Hell yes. Hauling beer would be awesome!”

 

So as the past month rolled by, we both  kept thinking and talking about him getting to chauffeur some kegs or maybe a case or too around. We’d laugh and giggle about it, dreaming about a huge 53ft trailer full of beer. (Can you imagine it?  I can and it makes me happy just thinking about it!)

 

The point here is that the idea (and my dream) of his truck being full to the max of cases of beer was on our minds and well, it was something we both ‘wanted’ and thought would be super cool if it manifested.

 

And then it happened.

 

He ended up hauling beer!

 

Just this week, his trailer was full of 2100 cases of beer!  Do you have any idea how much beer that is? It’s like 44,000 lbs or…..50,000 bottles!!  Holy fuck…that is more beer than…. Oh, my heart, it fills with joy to imagine it!

 

Sorry about that. Let me get back on point here since I was knee deep in a crazy fizzy alcohol fueled fantasy….

 

Now I believe what happened with the beer and my boyfriend illustrates so perfectly how when we are playful and happy, in a good state of mind and vibrating at a high frequency, the Universe responds to us more easily and readily than it does when we are vibrating at a lower frequency.

 

See, Renee and I were not worrying about how the beer might get loaded onto his truck. We weren’t wishing it would happen, lamenting that he might not get to haul some happy adult beverages or saying stuff like, “OMG, you have to haul beer and always have it in the trailer!!!  If you don’t haul some brews, our lives will be miserable and suck.”

 

We were just laughing and giggling about it, totally happy and voila!

 

He gets to haul beer.

 

The takeaway here is what you say, what you think and how you are feeling ALL has an influence on The Law of Attraction and what you manifest into your life.

 

When you sit down with your big list of dreams, wants, wishes and desires, do you feel happy or sad?  Is there a sense of lack or a sense of abundance?  Do you have fun with manifesting or does it just seem impossible?

 

I can’t answer these questions for you. Only you can.

 

So…have fun dreaming your dreams. Giggle and laugh your way through manifesting everything you want. Don’t worry about the how or the why.  Know that the thing you want is on it’s way.

The Universe loves you.

Xoxox

 

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Boundaries and The Bottom Line

Boundaries and the Bottom Line

(aka:  why I won’t work for free anymore)

 

Recently someone said to me something about boundaries and it got me thinking about them, the kind others have and the ones I have for myself.

 

Boundaries, limits, the proverbial line in the sand. What do you allow?  What is acceptable and what is not acceptable?

 

And this year, I am setting some serious boundaries with myself and my business both as a writer and producer.

 

Why? Because it’s time.

 

As I look over my past, I realize that by not setting boundaries, I have not honored myself. I’ve not appreciated and placed a high enough value on my skills and talents, and by doing so, I have suffered both emotionally and financially.

 

Let me explain. For many years, I would get a job offer and I would just take it, no matter what the pay was or the job. I did not place much value on my skills and abilities so I never asked for much. I was also taught to just take what you can get and just deal with it. “Make do,” as my mother would say. As a result, I ended up working for people who had no respect for me and who treated me as such.

 

In all of those years, I felt used and quite terrible about it.  I never really knew why because I never thought about it much. It all felt really wrong though. I was told to work hard and just do my job so I did just that for years on end.  Another phenomenon that I experienced during that was was regarding the quality of my work. The better my work was, the more work they gave me. Not pay, not respect, just more work.

 

And I get it. I was easy to take advantage of back then because I didn’t know any better.  I thought that maybe this was the way the world worked.

 

Now, a few years ago, I began to experience an awakening of sorts.  Maybe that wasn’t the way the world worked. I started writing full time, I started a business and I left my previous career behind me….

 

Or so I thought.

 

As I stepped into a more creative role and found my tribe, I’ve found such joy and happiness. I can’t imagine not being in this business, doing what I do now, writing and creating cool and amazing stuff cause deep down, it feels right and I love it.

 

What doesn’t feel right at this moment, however, is the fact that I keep allowing people to take advantage of me, my generosity, skills and talent.

 

Yes, I am taking responsibility for allowing it to happen because I am nice and I want to help as many people as I can be successful and live the life of their dreams. I’ve spent hours working on projects for people and not asked for money because I trusted them and believed that they valued me and my work and eventually, they would pay me. I was always afraid to bring up money and ask for money.

 

How very wrong I have been.

 

My time is precious to me. When I spend time working for someone be it as a writer or a producer or director and I don’t get paid, it hurts me…emotionally and financially.  When I think about all of the hours I have spent using my creativity and skills to help someone create or promote or make something awesome, I get angry because had they hired someone else, they would have paid them.

 

So….when I think about hiring someone to do something for me, no matter what it is, I want to pay them because they have spent time and used their skill and talent to help me in some way. I would never expect a plumber or mechanic to work on my house or my car for free.  What makes it ok to not pay someone (aka me) who is creating something for someone else to use to better their life or business?  Creative writing is work and it has value.

 

 

So with that being said, I am not going to work for free anymore. My time is valuable. My skills, abilities and creativity are valuable. I cannot pay my bills with ” thank you’s” and “I appreciate you”.  I am valuable and what I do creatively has value.

 

If you want to hire me, great, however, from this moment forward, do not expect me to work for free.  I will speak up, write a contract and ask to be paid. I am drawing my line in the sand and setting a boundary.

And that’s the bottom line.

 

Have You Found Easy Street?

Easy Street!  Have you heard of Easy Street?  There’s a song from the musical Annie called Easy Street. It’s pretty funny, but it’s not the kind of Easy Street I am talking about.

 

I love a different kind of Easy Street.  I do. That’s not to say that I don’t like challenges cause I like those too, but not everything has to be hard. Difficult. Insurmountable, does it?

 

So why am I bringing this up today.  Easy Street.

 

Well, it’s because I was having a conversation with my mom a few days ago and she started to talk about working hard. How she and my father have worked hard their whole lives. Then she started to talk about how hard is it to have a successful business and how hard it is to make money.

 

Anyone else ever hear these sentiments from well-meaning family or friends?

 

“Making money is hard”

“Life is hard.”

“You have to sacrifice your happiness and joy to get anywhere in life”

 

I really have an issue with these statements because I used to agree with them. I was brought up to believe that life had to be hard and a constant struggle. I worked myself to craziness and well, it wasn’t much fun.

 

What changed?

 

Me. My mindset.

I changed my mindset.

So how does that work?

 

Well, by changing our mindset and choosing ease over difficulty. By choosing to change those statements and forming our own new ones that reflect our change in mindset.

For example

Life is hard, becomes Life is easy.

Making money is hard, becomes Making money is easy.

 

It’s such a simple shift, but it makes all the difference in the world.

 

When I learned this lesson, I swear that things really did become easy.

 

I found Easy Street.

 

When I needed to finish a project, it was easy and I finished it quicker than I could have imagined.

 

Like just this week, I was working on a proposal for a PSA. Now in the past, I would have thought “OMG, this is soooo hard. How can I finish this in less than a week? I’m not going to finish.”

 

I didn’t tell myself that this time though. When I started to write both the script and the proposal, I said “This is going to be a piece of cake. Writing this proposal is going to be easy and I will finish it way before the deadline.”

 

And guess what happened!

 

I did finish it, 2 days before the proposal was due (and it’s damn good if I do say so myself)!

 

Do YOU want to live on Easy Street?

xoxox

Tobi

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Changing Direction

Changing Direction

Well, it’s time to change direction here at A Dream Created Life.

 

Let me tell you why.

 

So it’s early here and I’m looking at my website and the e-courses I wrote and have for sale right now. Now don’t get me wrong, I love this site and I’m so proud and happy with what I was working on back then like a year ago.

 

But that was then, this is now.

 

Anyway, I wrote and sold those two courses over a year ago.  They’re good and I’m proud of them, but I want to change direction with the kinds of courses I want to write and share with the world.

 

So with that said, I’m going to offer a sell off of these jam packed really awesome courses in the next couple of weeks.  Basically, you can get all of my old courses “Break the Bank” and “What Are You Worth” for one price. Think of it as a two for one special!

 

Two for One!

 

Each course is valued at $30.00  a piece, but you will be able to get BOTH courses for $25.00.

 

Want to learn more about the courses, head on over to their pages following the links above.

 

Then I’ll be pulling them off the website until maybe in the future I re-release them..or not. Who knows.

 

Why am I doing this?

 

Because I am. I have other things I want to create and share with the world.  Other better and more improved courses.  I loved those courses, but I have others in my head that I’d like to write and share.

 

Now, with that being said, to get the special one time only sale price on these fabulous courses, please sign up below for my mailing list cause that’s where I’m going  to announce the sale.

 

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Happy New Year! What do you want?

Happy New Year!

Well, we did it, folks! One more year around the sun and we’re all still here!  Happy New Year!! Woo hoo!  Give yourself a pat on the back and get ready for another whirlwind of a ride!  2017 is going to be awesome!  Hell, it already is!

Yay for 2017!

This morning, the love of my life, Renee, wrote in his blog about what he wants in 2017. It was so good that it inspired me to write this blog  and share what it is that I want in 2017.

Now earlier this morning I got out a brand new journal that I’ve been saving for some reason and started my master list of dreams and desires. Yep, it’s a new year, time for a new journal and a new list.

New Year, New Journal

A few years ago, I started to write down what I want everyday and amazingly, most of the things I’ve been putting down in these journals have been coming true.  Yea, it’s a pretty cool thing when you start to manifest what you want. I love that about the Law of Attraction!

Anywho…..what is on my master list for 2017.  What do I want to do?  Who do I want to become?  What do I want to have?  Pretty much everything I want goes into that journal.  Everyday.  Sometimes the list changes a bit, but it’s always there. It’s one of the things I do in my Law of Attraction practice.

So What Do I Want in 2017?

  1. Sell a full length feature screenplay
  2. Write, direct and produce at least 3 short films
  3. Get said films into at least 3 film festivals
  4. Get hired to write for a TV show as a staff writer
  5. Be healthier (and back to my fighting weight)
  6. Finish the house (even the kitchen)
  7. Laugh everyday and make others laugh as well
  8. Travel to the UK and Australia and ?
  9. Fly first class
  10. Pay off all debts
  11. Help as many people as I can live the life of their dreams
  12. Write at least 3 more books and publish them
  13. Get a publishing deal
  14. Launch another podcast
  15. Get into the Screen Actor’s Guild and Producer’s Guild of America
  16. Skydive at least once
  17. Spend everyday in creative flow
  18. Start riding a motorcycle
  19. Get on the stage and do stand up comedy
  20. Live my life to the absolute fullest!

So there you have it. 20 of the things I want to do, be and have in 2017.  I am excited and happy to check off as many of them as I can!  Woo hoo! It’s going to be fun for sure!

So what do you want in the new year?  What’s on your list?

xoxox

Celebrate Everything

It’s that time of year again.  The holidays are here and it’s time to gather with friends and family to celebrate.  Celebrate everything. Seriously. Have fun.  Drink the egg nogs, eat the cookies and have yourself a merry time indeed!

It’s party time!!!

That’s what I plan on doing.  December is usually a pretty low key month for me. I tend to be like a bear and hibernate a bit in between all of the holiday hoopla and insanity. I do some writing, but really, I spend more time reflecting back on the past twelve months, celebrating the wins and dissecting the losses.

This December has been no different and when I look back on 2016, all I can say is WOW!  Holy shit!  I did all that this year?

Yep…I did.  I manifested it all.

So What Did I Do All Year?

From e-courses, blogs, two books and countless scripts and screenplays that have yet to be shot and unleashed on the world, it has been a most productive year indeed.  I made a film in 48 hours with some friends of mine for the 48 hour film project and  started a production company, Risa Tortuga Productions.  I also wrote and directed my first ever short film and I have had the honor to help a dear friend bring one of her goals to life in the form of a podcast talk show, Women, Wit and Wine.

So….I sit here in amazement of my life yet again. Happiness and joy floods my heart cause I went for it, wholeheartedly to create and embrace the career that I have always wanted, self employed writer/movie maker. Best part of all of this is I’m  just getting started.  Next year is going to be even more productive. I can’t wait to share it all with you.

I also manifested the love of my life.  Funny how that one popped up when I was least expecting it, but I did at some point earlier this year write down everything that I wanted in a lover/boyfriend and the Universe brought him to me.  (Actually, he had been around for a while, I just needed to recognize and acknowledge him.) He’s so super cool and my best friend which I am super thankful for. He writes a blog too (The Many Sides of Renee) and is getting ready to release a book soon (when I get off my bum and finish editing it…ha ha ha).

Anyway, I digress.

Anything is possible. You just need to believe.  Believe you are worthy. Believe you deserve the thing you desire.  Take action and little steps…..

And celebrate.  Get your party on. Do what makes you happy and revel in it.

xoxox

 

It’s Ok to Not Know

July was a crazy month for me.  So much happened in one month and now that it’s August, I feel like I’m trying to find my footing again.  I don’t feel lost per se, but I do feel like there are a billion things to do and I gotta choose just one.   Just one!  And I do not know which one to choose…..Bahh….

I feel like Indiana Jones  when he has to pick one cup from the others and it’s gotta be the right one or …well, if you’ve seen the movie, you know what happens.

So how do I choose?  How do I choose the right project to focus on?

Maybe this is the universe telling me that it’s ok to not know right now and to take some time off and get back to  my groovy happy zone and flow.

Last month was such a whirlwind of ups and downs. Between movie shoots, trips to the lake, my directorial debut and a bunch of other personal things,  the dust from all of that excitement and adventure has settled and I sort of don’t know what to do. Of course, I have a huge laundry list of shit to take care of and I know what I should be doing, but honestly, I don’t feel like doing any of it right now. Why that is, I have no idea and that is ok.

I give myself permission to not know.

It is ok to not know and not have all of the answers all of the time. Sometimes I need to sit and feel what I need to do next.  I know, sounds crazy, but it’s true.  Ever since I started to lead my business and my writing with my heart instead of my head, it’s gone so much smoother and has been better overall.

My scripts will always be here, waiting patiently for me to work on them. The rest of the business stuff, it will be here too. I know this is temporary and shall pass because it always does.

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How Did I Get Here

How did I get here?

 

I used to wonder if I got ‘here’ by accident or if it was my own doing.

 

And ‘here’…where is ‘here’ exactly?

 

Well, ‘here’ is my home. My house, in my office with the computer, surrounded by two of my cats who insist on ‘helping’ me work (eg walking about on my desk, sitting on my mouse pad and staring at me while I type).

 

‘Here’ means other things as well.

 

I now work for myself creating and doing what I want to do.

 

I no longer punch a clock every day and work in a lab. I don’t spend all day on the phone chasing leads and pitching strangers. I also do not walk around a sales floor, chatting with customers to help them find what they need in the shop.

 

‘Here’ is freedom.

‘Here’ is openness.

‘Here’ is mine.

 

See, just over two years ago, my journey to ‘here’ really began when I found myself unemployed again and struggling to understand how in the hell I managed to get myself fired….again. I was a good employee. I had skills and did a good job, yet I was no longer wanted. I was labeled trouble and sent on my way.

 

Truth is though, I never liked that job or the people I worked for or with so really, it was a blessing to get fired.

 

Yes, I hated my job….

 

Now what does that have to do with ‘here’…..

 

Well, I felt like I was in a sort of free fall after being let go….a ‘what the fuck do I do now with my life?’ now sort of place.

 

And I had questions….Why did this happen again? What part did I play? What did I do wrong and right? How can I make my life better in the future? And so forth and so on….

 

As I sought to answer those questions, I discovered the Law of Attraction through a movie of all things, ‘ The Secret’ and I wondered……

 

Could this be the answer? Have I been manifesting all of my life and not knowing it? Bringing things into my life that I didn’t necessarily want (or did I?)

 

I hated that job and for months would ruminate on getting fired….
then it happened!

 

When I made that connection, it was like someone opened the dark clouds and the sun shone directly on me.

 

So what did I do next?

 

I studied, I learned. I applied what I learned about the Law of Attraction.

 

And now, well I’m ‘here’…..

 

When I look back over the past 2 years, I have manifested so many awesome things in my life. Things that I never would have thought possible back when I was still punching a clock.

 

For example:

 

I haven’t had a regular job in over 2 years.
I work from home.
I work for myself.
I set my schedule.
Money shows up when I need it.
I create and write and do what I want to do.
I study and am trying to learn as much as I can.

 

I live the Law of Attraction!

 

And you can too!

 

You can create your own ‘here’, whatever that may be. It’s your life.

 

Where are you? Do you like where you are?

 

If you aren’t happy with your ‘here’, learn how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want in my latest e-course, Dream It! Feel It! Have It!

XOXO,

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Go With The Flow!

Go with the flow!

You ever feel like you are pushing and pulling in your life? Following systems, doing what others say you HAVE to do to achieve your dreams and have success? Are you trying to force something to happen your life or business?

 

Just stop. Stop what you are doing and go with the flow!

 

 

YOUR flow
YOUR rhythm!

 

Tune the others out and listen to your heart and find your own flow.

 

Lately I have been feeling very irritated.  Bugged. Annoyed.

 

When I get online and start working, I am fine as long as I stay off of social media meaning, I have to stay off of the internet.  When I get on social media, I get distracted and start reading other people’s shit. No matter where I go online, I see crap like this!

 

“Don’t stop! Don’t give up! Be yourself!  Stay plugged in!  Do the work!  Stop whining! Work until your fingers bleed! Give up everything and work work work!!  Ignore your life/family/friends! If you want to be successful, you have to [fill in the blank]”

 

And I am fucking sick of it!

 

Why?

 

Because if I wanted to work 18 hours a day, I would have stayed in the laboratory where I had to clock in and out everyday, be on call and give of myself all of the time even when I didn’t want to.

 

Seriously.

 

I left that life behind and the reason I choose to work from home and for myself is so that I don’t have to work 18 hours a day, 70 hours a week or more.

 

Just because I do not work all day, take a day off now and again and seek balance in my business and my life does not mean I am not dedicated or do not want to be successful.

 

I am dedicated.  Very dedicated to my writing. Very dedicated to helping others.

 

I work everyday and I do take time off . Now I don’t necessarily publish all that I write, but I am here, every day.

 

I strive to live a balanced and happy life, one in which my business is a part of, but not the ONLY thing I do.

 

So what’s with me getting so annoyed by the shit online that I keep reading and why in the hell do I keep reading it when it bothers me?

 

Because I let it and because I keep reading it like an idiot!

 

Yep.

 

I am taking responsibility for my actions and feelings and getting annoyed by other people’s advice is my fault.
So today I am choosing something different!

 

Fuck what they have to say! Fuck what they are doing! Seriously!

 

I have my own flow, my own rhythm and I run my business and my life how I see fit.

 

Go with the flow….your flow…whatever it may be!

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Who’s Driving?

Who’s Driving?

Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been on a mission. A mission to create, write, try new things, do more and be more me.

 

This journey, my journey, is no longer directed by others, but is being lead by my heart. My soul is on fire to share who I am, what I’ve learned and what I know about life, love, humor and all kinds of other wonderful things I’ve picked up along the travels of my life.

 

I will not hide who I am any longer behind the ‘shoulds, coulds and must do’ bullshit.

 

My sunshiny blinders are on and I’m back to creating and writing in a way that makes me feel good and happy and joyful. Everyday…every single freaking day!

 

How did I ever get to such a place?

 

I don’t know, but I am glad to be here.

 

Listen to your heart.

 

Let it do the driving for awhile!

 

So how do you even begin to do that?

 

For years, I wondered that myself. Listen to your heart and let it lead you.

 

But how?

 

I guess it begins by turning inward a bit and tuning out the cacophony of voices surrounding you. You start by listening first to the whispers of your soul that remind you of who you really are before the world around you herded you into what they thought you should be. You get quiet, and you listen…..

 

You remember all of the dreams you had as a kid. You know the ones. The ones that you openly shared with anyone who would listen back then.

 

Everyone believed you and encouraged you to dream back then because it was totally reasonable for a 5 year old to want to be the president, a movie star and an astronaut, ruling the country from outer space whilst making movies at the same time.

 

At some point, the encouragement stopped and your dreams, suddenly they were ‘unreasonable’, ‘crazy’ or ‘wild’. You were told to grow up and do something reasonable and safe with your life.

 

You stopped listening to your heart and began to listen to all of the peole around you who told you what you ‘should’ be doing because you had an aptitude for something. You quit trusting yourself and did what they said to do because they promised a life of comfort, safety and financial stability.

 

But you were never satisfied with that. You looked out the window while at work and wondered “Is this it? Is this my life? Am I always going to be in the office, hospital, laboratory for the rest of my life?” and it made you want to cry and run away.

 

Maybe it didn’t happen all at once, but eventually and slowly you started to remember all of the dreams you had as a kid. You became quiet and you listened and your heart opened up and reminded you of who you were before the world told you what you needed to be.

 

As you listened, you started to dream again and believe that there was more to living a life of obligation and expectation. You trusted yourself more and began to shed the chains of the prison you created for yourself by doing what they told you to do because it was ‘safe’.

 

Eventually after some time of listening, you decided to truly break free because the pain of the role that you took because others told you to became too much to bear and you couldn’t live one more day doing things that you did not like or enjoy.

 

You drew a line in the sand….

 

You listened to your heart and let it guide you on your new journey, taking on a new part of your own creation, filled with joy and happiness and heaps of laughter.

 

The life that you used to have no longer exists for you now.

 

You’ve become soul driven with a purpose. An awesome fabulous purpose!

 

And you will not quit or give up on your dreams anymore.

 

Or try to be someone or something you aren’t.

 

Those days are long gone

 

Because you listen to your heart now.

It does the driving.

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