How to Handle Your Runaway Emotions

Have you ever had your emotions runaway from you?  One day, everything is fine and you’re feeling great and then boom!  Suddenly its like WTF just happened? Now I feel ….ugh….

Seriously, WTF just happened?

Here’s the deal: When something upsets us and if you’re like me and you’ve been practicing the Law of Attraction, it’s very easy to want to try to shove or banish those types of emotions away. You can’t though and let me explain why.

So the past few weeks have been a gentle reminder for me to feel all my emotions. Usually I feel good about everything in my life and I run around in a state of joy and happiness no matter what the situation.

Last week was not the case. My boyfriend and I found ourselves in a situation which was completely out of our control. See, normally money just magically appears in his bank account at the end of his pay period. It’s been like that for months and well, that’s what happens.

Well he switched jobs and the new one didn’t offer direct deposit, but rather a pay card where his money would be on payday. Now we didn’t think anything about this at all at the time because we assumed (don’t make assumptions) it would be easy for him to transfer the funds to his bank account on payday.

Boy were we wrong. Turns out transferring money or even getting the money off the card ended up being a veritable nightmare. I won’t go into details here, but it was bad.  Really terrible.

Some things are out of our control

Now, during this whole event, I started to feel really angry not just at the company who was holding his money hostage, but the company he works for.  One day last week I was so nauseous that I couldn’t even eat. Another day I had a migraine.

I sometimes have a really hard time expressing how I feel when I’m angry or upset. I don’t like to bring down anyone by sharing these emotions with anyone. As a result of holding back,  I was starting to manifest physical symptoms that were bringing me to my knees.

It wasn’t until earlier this week I realized what was going on and decided to do something about it.

So here’s the deal when you have low vibrating emotions such as anger, fear, and frustration,(aka the runaways.)

How to Handle Your Runaway Emotions

Feel Them!

Shake your fists, cry, or talk to someone such as a friend.  Don’t stuff them away and try to be happy when you’re clearly not!

Express them!

Find a way to express your emotions in a way which isn’t destructive or harmful to yourself or others. Write them down or write a letter to the thing that’s really upset you.  Sometimes I  sit down and write out everything that’s pissed me off about the situation or I write a letter to it. Then I burn the letter.

Meditate

Yeah, the less woo-woo guru is advocating meditation, but it’s not what you think. If you can take one minute during any sort of emotional episode and reconnect with yourself by just sitting down, closing you eyes and breathing deeply for about a minute, you’ll amazingly feel better.

Know That They Will Pass.

Our feelings are like the tide in a constant state of ebb and flow. Be patient and let them do just that, flow through you like a river. I always find this concept very comforting to me .

Find Five Good Things

Look around in your environment or life and find five good things, right now no matter what you are feeling. If you can do that, you’ll instantly raise your vibration and possibly feel better.

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Choices and Alignment

Choices and Alignment

 

Recently, I had to make a choice:  walk away from something that wasn’t aligned with me or stay and try to make the best of it even though I felt terrible.  I waffled back and forth because I didn’t want to hurt anyone (including myself) and making that decision wasn’t pleasant, but I had to because the thing wasn’t in alignment with who I am, my life and my goals.

 

Leading up to my decision, I had felt that I needed to stay and help and push the thing into alignment. What a crazy thing to do, right?

 

I don’t know much, but I know this:

 

You cannot force the Universe

Or situations

Or people

Into alignment.

 

And I tried. I really did try.

 

I had been staying  and pushing even though my intuition was screaming at me to run away because I was feeling worse and worse everyday. (and I do not like feeling bad)

 

SO I made the choice and well, now I’m dealing with the consequences of that choice.

 

And while I do feel better today because it’s all said and done now, there is part of me that feels bad because I unintentionally hurt someone and for that I am sorry.

 

Now what does this have to do with the Law of Attraction?

 

Vibrations and Alignment

 

Since I started to study the Law of Attraction, I’ve gotten really good at feeling my vibration and the vibrations of the people around me. Being an empath also helps with this and with a bit of practice, my sensitivity to these vibrations has gotten really fine tuned so when I am around people or situations that are not at the same frequency that I vibrate at, I feel it with every ounce of my being.

 

Now, I realize I can’t change the vibrations of other people or situations.  I try to deal with them as they are as best I can.  I offer help and well, in this situation, I tried to do the best I could to help raise the vibration.

 

It was no use though so I had to make a choice: Stay or Leave.

 

After months of banging my head against the wall, feeling totally miserable, I realized that I couldn’t stay because I know deep down I can only handle so much negative vibration from others.  As an empath, I feel what other people feel even when I don’t want to.  It’s a great thing and a shitty thing all at the same time.

 

So my questions for you are do you stay in a situation that feels vibrationally  bad or wrong? Or do you walk away?  Do you try to fix the situation or person who isn’t vibrating at the same frequency as you?  Or do you remove yourself from the situation?

 

I have to say that making that choice, while it was hard, was the best thing for me to do for me right now. I feel more aligned with the Universe again.

 

So in sum, it’s all about choice.  What you choose. Do you listen to your intuition or ignore it?

Who do you choose to surround yourself with and how do you feel when you are around them?

What situations do you choose to be in and how do you feel when you are in them?

 

It’s all about choices and alignment.

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Today, You Have Permission to…

Today, you have permission to feel….

 

Now fill in the blank.

 

Throughout this great moving adventure and major changes that are taking place in my life right now, I’ve been feeling quite a few emotions. Some positive and some negative. I’m happy to be going home, but I am sad to be leaving New England. I am happy to get rid of things that no longer serve me, but I feel somewhat sad about letting them go. I am happy that I get to live in my house again, but I am sad about what my brother and his friends have done to it.

 

And I’m giving myself permission to feel all of these emotions. Yep, you heard me right.

 

I give myself permission to be both happy and sad.

 

When we are faced with huge life changes, our emotional landscape can go from being sunny to overcast and rainy..and it can change in a minute or an hour. Being an empath, these massive emotional swings can seem insurmountable and sometimes frightening, but they don’t need to be. Let me explain why.

 

How would we know what happiness is if we never experienced sadness or grief? How would we know harmony and peace if we’ve never experienced anger and discontent?

 

We wouldn’t, would we? Life would be dull and drab and downright boring if all we experienced was one emotion or no emotions. Imagine that?

 

There is a movie called Equilibrium about a society of people who are drugged into what is called equilibrium. Emotions are never expressed and to show any emotion can mean death. Can you imagine? I can’t.

 

Feelings and emotions are what make being human so….Human. We have to give ourselves permission to feel all of them though. Even the negative ones because with out them, we wouldn’t have the positive ones.

 

So give yourself permission today to feel whatever it is that you are feeling.

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