I’m so flipping excited right now. My publisher and I just re-released my book “Break the Bank” and in celebration of it, I’m offering it free over on Amazon for a limited time only!
Woo hoo hoo!
So why should you read it?
Well because it’ll help you get free from some of those shit money beliefs you might have like
“Money is evil”
“Rich people are born lucky”
Maybe you cringe when you have to deal with money or pay bills.
Yeah…I so know the feeling which is why I wrote this book. I used to cringe when I had to look at my bank account. Paying bills used to feel like torture. Pretty much anything to do with money used to make my butt twitch in the worst way…
But then I learned a few things and decided they were so valuable, I put them in a book.
You can break free from your limiting money beliefs!
You can love money no matter how much money you have right now.
Anyway…..I’m not going to super pitch it here cause over on Amazon there’s a pretty lengthy description. (Feel free to check it out, there’s even a free sample to read if you’re unsure!)
BUT I did want to make this little announcement here today.
Break the Bank is free on Amazon!
All you gotta do is head on over to Amazon and hit the buy button and it’s all yours.
Yesterday was Memorial Day here in the United States. It’s a day when we look back over our past and remember all of the brave service men and women who died serving in the US military to protect the freedoms we all enjoy. I can’t tell you how thankful I am for these people because without them, things would be vastly different.
Anyway, Memorial Day always makes me think about the past, both my past and the past of all the people who have somehow made it into my life for a time or two. I’ve sometimes felt trapped by my past, but along the way, I learned how to be free from it.
How to Break Free From Your Past
If you believe The Law of Attraction is real and is always working whether you realize it or not, you can conceivably say that you have attracted every single person who has come into your life, both the good and the bad. Maybe some of these people have stayed around for years. Maybe some of them have only been around for just a little while.
The point is you attracted them because you needed them and they you and the Universe brought you together. There are no coincidences.
When I used to look back, I’d wonder why certain types of people kept showing up. Some were the most demeaning and toxic friendships or relationships I have ever been in. Back then, I’d do my damnedest to try to understand why and I never could figure it out. That was until I learned about the Law of Attraction.
With my new knowledge, I realize that it was me and my core beliefs at the time about who I am and what I deserved in a friendship or relationship which attracted them.
See, back in the day I had very low self esteem and self worth. I felt I didn’t deserve to have nice friends or a good boyfriend because I didn’t value myself much. As a result, I ended up in some very bad relationships with people who did not treat me well. Sadly, when these types of toxic people would show up, I would do everything I could to keep the friendship or relationship going because I didn’t believe I deserved better.
Seriously, it was messed up!
Deep down in my heart though, I knew I deserved better friends and relationships and thankfully I was able to escape most of these entanglements without much damage to my self worth and self esteem.
So how does this relate to the Law of Attraction?
How You Feel About Yourself Will Attract People Into Your Life Who Will Confirm Those Beliefs
If you believe you deserve to be surrounded by people who love you and what the best for you at the highest level, then you will be. If you believe you are worthy of a healthy relationship, the Universe will bring you just that; Someone you can have a healthy relationship with.
If you believe you aren’t worthy and you feel bad about yourself, the Universe will bring you people who just confirm that belief for you. Sounds crazy, but it’s true.
You ever meet someone who’s been in relationship after relationship with the same sort of man or woman? They just keep attracting the same sort of person again and again and then they wonder why.
I had a friend once who seemed to attract nothing but drug addicts, alcoholics and abusers. I used to shake my head back then, but now I understand what was going on. My friend had no self worth whatsoever and would lament and whine about how she was ‘never good enough, not pretty enough, not rich enough, etc…’ to attract a decent man. Her belief in what she was attracted people, men especially, who would just confirm and strengthen her beliefs about herself.
What can we learn here?
Everyone is Worthy
First thing I want everyone to learn is that they are worthy of healthy relationships. Everyone deserves to have a cadre of friends who love and support them. When I say everyone, I mean EVERYONE. I mean you too!
Secondly, if you’ve made some bad choices in friends or relationships, forgive yourself. You can’t change your past. Today is a new day to change your beliefs about yourself and what you want. Don’t beat yourself up about the past.
Limit Time Spent With Toxic People
I’d love to say end all of your bad relationships now which is sometimes easier said than done. What you can do, however, is limit your time with them. As you strengthen your beliefs in yourself and raise your self esteem and self worth, you’ll find many of your toxic relationships will naturally resolve themselves. The more you practice, the easier it gets.
Believe in Yourself
Always believe in yourself. You are worthy. You deserve good things and people in your life. If you struggle with this, it’s ok. We all have moments of self doubt. It will pass.
Recently someone said to me something about boundaries and it got me thinking about them, the kind others have and the ones I have for myself.
Boundaries, limits, the proverbial line in the sand. What do you allow? What is acceptable and what is not acceptable?
And this year, I am setting some serious boundaries with myself and my business both as a writer and producer.
Why? Because it’s time.
As I look over my past, I realize that by not setting boundaries, I have not honored myself. I’ve not appreciated and placed a high enough value on my skills and talents, and by doing so, I have suffered both emotionally and financially.
Let me explain. For many years, I would get a job offer and I would just take it, no matter what the pay was or the job. I did not place much value on my skills and abilities so I never asked for much. I was also taught to just take what you can get and just deal with it. “Make do,” as my mother would say. As a result, I ended up working for people who had no respect for me and who treated me as such.
In all of those years, I felt used and quite terrible about it. I never really knew why because I never thought about it much. It all felt really wrong though. I was told to work hard and just do my job so I did just that for years on end. Another phenomenon that I experienced during that was was regarding the quality of my work. The better my work was, the more work they gave me. Not pay, not respect, just more work.
And I get it. I was easy to take advantage of back then because I didn’t know any better. I thought that maybe this was the way the world worked.
Now, a few years ago, I began to experience an awakening of sorts. Maybe that wasn’t the way the world worked. I started writing full time, I started a business and I left my previous career behind me….
Or so I thought.
As I stepped into a more creative role and found my tribe, I’ve found such joy and happiness. I can’t imagine not being in this business, doing what I do now, writing and creating cool and amazing stuff cause deep down, it feels right and I love it.
What doesn’t feel right at this moment, however, is the fact that I keep allowing people to take advantage of me, my generosity, skills and talent.
Yes, I am taking responsibility for allowing it to happen because I am nice and I want to help as many people as I can be successful and live the life of their dreams. I’ve spent hours working on projects for people and not asked for money because I trusted them and believed that they valued me and my work and eventually, they would pay me. I was always afraid to bring up money and ask for money.
How very wrong I have been.
My time is precious to me. When I spend time working for someone be it as a writer or a producer or director and I don’t get paid, it hurts me…emotionally and financially. When I think about all of the hours I have spent using my creativity and skills to help someone create or promote or make something awesome, I get angry because had they hired someone else, they would have paid them.
So….when I think about hiring someone to do something for me, no matter what it is, I want to pay them because they have spent time and used their skill and talent to help me in some way. I would never expect a plumber or mechanic to work on my house or my car for free. What makes it ok to not pay someone (aka me) who is creating something for someone else to use to better their life or business? Creative writing is work and it has value.
So with that being said, I am not going to work for free anymore. My time is valuable. My skills, abilities and creativity are valuable. I cannot pay my bills with ” thank you’s” and “I appreciate you”. I am valuable and what I do creatively has value.
If you want to hire me, great, however, from this moment forward, do not expect me to work for free. I will speak up, write a contract and ask to be paid. I am drawing my line in the sand and setting a boundary.
Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been on a mission. A mission to create, write, try new things, do more and be more me.
This journey, my journey, is no longer directed by others, but is being lead by my heart. My soul is on fire to share who I am, what I’ve learned and what I know about life, love, humor and all kinds of other wonderful things I’ve picked up along the travels of my life.
I will not hide who I am any longer behind the ‘shoulds, coulds and must do’ bullshit.
My sunshiny blinders are on and I’m back to creating and writing in a way that makes me feel good and happy and joyful. Everyday…every single freaking day!
How did I ever get to such a place?
I don’t know, but I am glad to be here.
Listen to your heart.
Let it do the driving for awhile!
So how do you even begin to do that?
For years, I wondered that myself. Listen to your heart and let it lead you.
I guess it begins by turning inward a bit and tuning out the cacophony of voices surrounding you. You start by listening first to the whispers of your soul that remind you of who you really are before the world around you herded you into what they thought you should be. You get quiet, and you listen…..
You remember all of the dreams you had as a kid. You know the ones. The ones that you openly shared with anyone who would listen back then.
Everyone believed you and encouraged you to dream back then because it was totally reasonable for a 5 year old to want to be the president, a movie star and an astronaut, ruling the country from outer space whilst making movies at the same time.
At some point, the encouragement stopped and your dreams, suddenly they were ‘unreasonable’, ‘crazy’ or ‘wild’. You were told to grow up and do something reasonable and safe with your life.
You stopped listening to your heart and began to listen to all of the peole around you who told you what you ‘should’ be doing because you had an aptitude for something. You quit trusting yourself and did what they said to do because they promised a life of comfort, safety and financial stability.
But you were never satisfied with that. You looked out the window while at work and wondered “Is this it? Is this my life? Am I always going to be in the office, hospital, laboratory for the rest of my life?” and it made you want to cry and run away.
Maybe it didn’t happen all at once, but eventually and slowly you started to remember all of the dreams you had as a kid. You became quiet and you listened and your heart opened up and reminded you of who you were before the world told you what you needed to be.
As you listened, you started to dream again and believe that there was more to living a life of obligation and expectation. You trusted yourself more and began to shed the chains of the prison you created for yourself by doing what they told you to do because it was ‘safe’.
Eventually after some time of listening, you decided to truly break free because the pain of the role that you took because others told you to became too much to bear and you couldn’t live one more day doing things that you did not like or enjoy.
You drew a line in the sand….
You listened to your heart and let it guide you on your new journey, taking on a new part of your own creation, filled with joy and happiness and heaps of laughter.
The life that you used to have no longer exists for you now.
You’ve become soul driven with a purpose. An awesome fabulous purpose!
And you will not quit or give up on your dreams anymore.
Or try to be someone or something you aren’t.
Those days are long gone
Because you listen to your heart now.
It does the driving.
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