How to Handle Your Runaway Emotions

Have you ever had your emotions runaway from you?  One day, everything is fine and you’re feeling great and then boom!  Suddenly its like WTF just happened? Now I feel ….ugh….

Seriously, WTF just happened?

Here’s the deal: When something upsets us and if you’re like me and you’ve been practicing the Law of Attraction, it’s very easy to want to try to shove or banish those types of emotions away. You can’t though and let me explain why.

So the past few weeks have been a gentle reminder for me to feel all my emotions. Usually I feel good about everything in my life and I run around in a state of joy and happiness no matter what the situation.

Last week was not the case. My boyfriend and I found ourselves in a situation which was completely out of our control. See, normally money just magically appears in his bank account at the end of his pay period. It’s been like that for months and well, that’s what happens.

Well he switched jobs and the new one didn’t offer direct deposit, but rather a pay card where his money would be on payday. Now we didn’t think anything about this at all at the time because we assumed (don’t make assumptions) it would be easy for him to transfer the funds to his bank account on payday.

Boy were we wrong. Turns out transferring money or even getting the money off the card ended up being a veritable nightmare. I won’t go into details here, but it was bad.  Really terrible.

Some things are out of our control

Now, during this whole event, I started to feel really angry not just at the company who was holding his money hostage, but the company he works for.  One day last week I was so nauseous that I couldn’t even eat. Another day I had a migraine.

I sometimes have a really hard time expressing how I feel when I’m angry or upset. I don’t like to bring down anyone by sharing these emotions with anyone. As a result of holding back,  I was starting to manifest physical symptoms that were bringing me to my knees.

It wasn’t until earlier this week I realized what was going on and decided to do something about it.

So here’s the deal when you have low vibrating emotions such as anger, fear, and frustration,(aka the runaways.)

How to Handle Your Runaway Emotions

Feel Them!

Shake your fists, cry, or talk to someone such as a friend.  Don’t stuff them away and try to be happy when you’re clearly not!

Express them!

Find a way to express your emotions in a way which isn’t destructive or harmful to yourself or others. Write them down or write a letter to the thing that’s really upset you.  Sometimes I  sit down and write out everything that’s pissed me off about the situation or I write a letter to it. Then I burn the letter.

Meditate

Yeah, the less woo-woo guru is advocating meditation, but it’s not what you think. If you can take one minute during any sort of emotional episode and reconnect with yourself by just sitting down, closing you eyes and breathing deeply for about a minute, you’ll amazingly feel better.

Know That They Will Pass.

Our feelings are like the tide in a constant state of ebb and flow. Be patient and let them do just that, flow through you like a river. I always find this concept very comforting to me .

Find Five Good Things

Look around in your environment or life and find five good things, right now no matter what you are feeling. If you can do that, you’ll instantly raise your vibration and possibly feel better.

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Yes, Life IS like a Roller Coaster

Have you ever been on a roller coaster?  I bet you have. So have I and I gotta say this using a very over used cliche’ …..

Life is like a roller coaster.

 

Sometimes you gotta wait and be patient just like that big hill at the beginning of the roller coaster. You know the one. The whole car clicks it’s way up, up, up and you’re just waiting for it to stop cause you know you’re going to be hurled down the hill into who knows what. Maybe the car drops 30 feet only to rise up again on another hill.  Sometimes the car lurches from side-to-side in tight turns that jerk your whole body to and fro.  The car could also go in a loop-de-loop and the horizon turns upside down  and you get to see the world from an all wonky new perspective.

 

You can’t really know what you’re going to experience until you step into that car and strap yourself in.

 

What you do know though is that you’re going to have fun. You aren’t in control and you may not know what is going to happen next, but it’s ok. .

 

And that’s what life feels like sometimes.

 

Since moving back to Albuquerque and many other times in my life, there have been ups and downs and twists and turns along the way which I never would have imagined. I love my life and am grateful for all the crazy stuff I have experienced along the way. I’m glad my life is like a roller coaster.

 

So here’s the deal: We don’t know what our lives are going to bring.  We can plan, but really, we can’t know for certain.

 

For example, recently, I’ve been planning on going on the road with R. in the truck for an adventure. I’ve been looking so forward to this, packing and planning and getting myself all ready to go. I even bought these crazy funnel things that…..  ha ha…(I’ll share that story on my other blog Adventures of a Curly Girl)

 

Anyway, a couple of days ago, one of my cats started to act funny.  Not bad funny, but not like himself which has me concerned.  I’ve been keeping an eye on him and so far, so good, but if he’s not totally back to his usual awesome cat self by the time R. leaves, then I will stay home with him until he recuperates.

 

And there it is…just like a roller coaster with an unexpected turn. I may not be getting on the road with R. as soon as I had hoped. It’s ok though.

Life IS a roller coaster.

Might as well enjoy the ride!

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Beer and The Law of Attraction

What does beer have to do with the Law of Attraction? Let me tell you a little story. Recently my boyfriend went back out driving a big ass semi-truck and since he started his latest job, he never knows what he’s going to be hauling.  For the past few weeks since he started the job, we’ve been joking about what he could be potentially carrying in his trailer and it’s always such a thrill and a surprise when we find out. Like could it be toilet paper? Canned soup?  Onions?

 

We never know and that’s half the fun of this little game we play.

 

Now we both love the old Smokey and the Bandit movies cause well, we grew up back in the 70’s  and we both have fond memories of them. Of course, given that Renee is a truck driver, hauling beer would be like the ultimate throw back and it would give us a chance to sing “East Bound and Down” to our hearts content. (It’s my favorite song to sing when he’s on the road)

 

So what in the hell does any of this have to do with

The Law of Attraction?

 

Well, for the past month or so since he accepted this job, we’ve been joking and talking about him hauling beer.

 

Yes, beer.

 

I love beer so I used to say to him, “Hey, wouldn’t it be soo cool if you got to haul some beer!”

 

He’d always laugh and say, “Hell yes. Hauling beer would be awesome!”

 

So as the past month rolled by, we both  kept thinking and talking about him getting to chauffeur some kegs or maybe a case or too around. We’d laugh and giggle about it, dreaming about a huge 53ft trailer full of beer. (Can you imagine it?  I can and it makes me happy just thinking about it!)

 

The point here is that the idea (and my dream) of his truck being full to the max of cases of beer was on our minds and well, it was something we both ‘wanted’ and thought would be super cool if it manifested.

 

And then it happened.

 

He ended up hauling beer!

 

Just this week, his trailer was full of 2100 cases of beer!  Do you have any idea how much beer that is? It’s like 44,000 lbs or…..50,000 bottles!!  Holy fuck…that is more beer than…. Oh, my heart, it fills with joy to imagine it!

 

Sorry about that. Let me get back on point here since I was knee deep in a crazy fizzy alcohol fueled fantasy….

 

Now I believe what happened with the beer and my boyfriend illustrates so perfectly how when we are playful and happy, in a good state of mind and vibrating at a high frequency, the Universe responds to us more easily and readily than it does when we are vibrating at a lower frequency.

 

See, Renee and I were not worrying about how the beer might get loaded onto his truck. We weren’t wishing it would happen, lamenting that he might not get to haul some happy adult beverages or saying stuff like, “OMG, you have to haul beer and always have it in the trailer!!!  If you don’t haul some brews, our lives will be miserable and suck.”

 

We were just laughing and giggling about it, totally happy and voila!

 

He gets to haul beer.

 

The takeaway here is what you say, what you think and how you are feeling ALL has an influence on The Law of Attraction and what you manifest into your life.

 

When you sit down with your big list of dreams, wants, wishes and desires, do you feel happy or sad?  Is there a sense of lack or a sense of abundance?  Do you have fun with manifesting or does it just seem impossible?

 

I can’t answer these questions for you. Only you can.

 

So…have fun dreaming your dreams. Giggle and laugh your way through manifesting everything you want. Don’t worry about the how or the why.  Know that the thing you want is on it’s way.

The Universe loves you.

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Celebrate Everything

It’s that time of year again.  The holidays are here and it’s time to gather with friends and family to celebrate.  Celebrate everything. Seriously. Have fun.  Drink the egg nogs, eat the cookies and have yourself a merry time indeed!

It’s party time!!!

That’s what I plan on doing.  December is usually a pretty low key month for me. I tend to be like a bear and hibernate a bit in between all of the holiday hoopla and insanity. I do some writing, but really, I spend more time reflecting back on the past twelve months, celebrating the wins and dissecting the losses.

This December has been no different and when I look back on 2016, all I can say is WOW!  Holy shit!  I did all that this year?

Yep…I did.  I manifested it all.

So What Did I Do All Year?

From e-courses, blogs, two books and countless scripts and screenplays that have yet to be shot and unleashed on the world, it has been a most productive year indeed.  I made a film in 48 hours with some friends of mine for the 48 hour film project and  started a production company, Risa Tortuga Productions.  I also wrote and directed my first ever short film and I have had the honor to help a dear friend bring one of her goals to life in the form of a podcast talk show, Women, Wit and Wine.

So….I sit here in amazement of my life yet again. Happiness and joy floods my heart cause I went for it, wholeheartedly to create and embrace the career that I have always wanted, self employed writer/movie maker. Best part of all of this is I’m  just getting started.  Next year is going to be even more productive. I can’t wait to share it all with you.

I also manifested the love of my life.  Funny how that one popped up when I was least expecting it, but I did at some point earlier this year write down everything that I wanted in a lover/boyfriend and the Universe brought him to me.  (Actually, he had been around for a while, I just needed to recognize and acknowledge him.) He’s so super cool and my best friend which I am super thankful for. He writes a blog too (The Many Sides of Renee) and is getting ready to release a book soon (when I get off my bum and finish editing it…ha ha ha).

Anyway, I digress.

Anything is possible. You just need to believe.  Believe you are worthy. Believe you deserve the thing you desire.  Take action and little steps…..

And celebrate.  Get your party on. Do what makes you happy and revel in it.

xoxox

 

Go With The Flow!

Go with the flow!

You ever feel like you are pushing and pulling in your life? Following systems, doing what others say you HAVE to do to achieve your dreams and have success? Are you trying to force something to happen your life or business?

 

Just stop. Stop what you are doing and go with the flow!

 

 

YOUR flow
YOUR rhythm!

 

Tune the others out and listen to your heart and find your own flow.

 

Lately I have been feeling very irritated.  Bugged. Annoyed.

 

When I get online and start working, I am fine as long as I stay off of social media meaning, I have to stay off of the internet.  When I get on social media, I get distracted and start reading other people’s shit. No matter where I go online, I see crap like this!

 

“Don’t stop! Don’t give up! Be yourself!  Stay plugged in!  Do the work!  Stop whining! Work until your fingers bleed! Give up everything and work work work!!  Ignore your life/family/friends! If you want to be successful, you have to [fill in the blank]”

 

And I am fucking sick of it!

 

Why?

 

Because if I wanted to work 18 hours a day, I would have stayed in the laboratory where I had to clock in and out everyday, be on call and give of myself all of the time even when I didn’t want to.

 

Seriously.

 

I left that life behind and the reason I choose to work from home and for myself is so that I don’t have to work 18 hours a day, 70 hours a week or more.

 

Just because I do not work all day, take a day off now and again and seek balance in my business and my life does not mean I am not dedicated or do not want to be successful.

 

I am dedicated.  Very dedicated to my writing. Very dedicated to helping others.

 

I work everyday and I do take time off . Now I don’t necessarily publish all that I write, but I am here, every day.

 

I strive to live a balanced and happy life, one in which my business is a part of, but not the ONLY thing I do.

 

So what’s with me getting so annoyed by the shit online that I keep reading and why in the hell do I keep reading it when it bothers me?

 

Because I let it and because I keep reading it like an idiot!

 

Yep.

 

I am taking responsibility for my actions and feelings and getting annoyed by other people’s advice is my fault.
So today I am choosing something different!

 

Fuck what they have to say! Fuck what they are doing! Seriously!

 

I have my own flow, my own rhythm and I run my business and my life how I see fit.

 

Go with the flow….your flow…whatever it may be!

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Where is Your Zen?

Has Your Zen Gone Missing?

 

I’ve just not been feeling the Zen lately. Yeah, I said it. My woo-woo zen happy-go-lucky spirit has left the building.

 

See, before I moved back to New Mexico, I was feeling the zen. And the woo-woo. My life was calm, happy and I was able to really get into my creative flow pretty much at will everyday and it was awesome.

 

Then I moved back to New Mexico. Back into the house that I’ve owned for 10 years. Back to the town I grew up in.

 

Now, moving, yes, it’s a huge change.

 

But there is more to my story than just moving across the country.

 

See, my brother had been living in my house for the past 4 years. Whilst he was living here, he decided that in his methamphetamine induced brilliance to ‘redecorate’ eg. destroy what I had already fixed up and/or sell/give away a bunch of my stuff and ruin whatever he got his hands on. He also let many of his so-called friends live here as well they did whatever they wanted to.

 

So when I arrived back just a few weeks ago, some of his friends were still living in the house or they had left things behind. Basically, I came home to a huge mess of epic proportions. To say I was upset would be an understatement.

 

And well, being constantly upset and angry like that, it’s somewhat taken my zen. I didn’t sleep well for the first week back in the house because my brother’s friends kept stopping by at all hours of the night and day. I’m not kidding about that. One of them came by at 4 am. He’s lucky I didn’t shoot him.

 

Also, it’s been very hard to find the zen when I look around and see all of the shit that I have to fix now as a result of my brother. From holes in the walls and doors, broken windows, gouged floors, broken trim and what not, I see these things and it makes me instantly angry. I’d like to kick my brother’s ass to be honest.

 

So where is the zen in that? There isn’t any zen in that.

 

Now before I left MA, I had all of these plans in my head for my writing and business, but since getting back, I’ve been struggling to even do a bit of writing because it comes out sooo angry and laced with venom. How dare I call myself a Law of Attraction coach or self-help guru zen writer when I am filled with angry and negative thoughts?

 

Basically, my writing and creative flow has been diminished since I got back. At this point, I have to change what I am doing so I can get my zen back cause I don’t like living like I have been.

 

So here’s my plan to get my woo-woo Zen back:

 

1. Have a Morning routine
2. Daily Meditation
3. Daily Tapping
4. Forgiveness

 

Have a Morning Routine

All a morning routine is what you do when you first wake up in the morning. It’s important because it sets the tone for the rest of the day. When you get up and do things that you love and are important to you, you feel better and therefore, have a better day overall. I didn’t realize how important and grounding a morning routine had on my life until it wasn’t there anymore as a result of moving.

 

See, before moving, I’d get up, do some yoga stretches, drink my tea, and get started writing. Since moving back, I haven’t had a morning routine at all cause things have been so fucked up. It’s time to get back to having a morning routine.

 

Daily Meditation

Meditation doesn’t have to be sitting in lotus position for hours on end. Meditation is just a bit of time that you take out of your day to sit, be calm and breathe. You can use a guided meditation or not. It’s your choice.

 

Before moving, I was meditating 5 minutes before I would write something creative. It’s time for me to add this back into my life.

 

Daily Tapping

Tapping is another great way to help calm ourselves down and find our zen. Basically, you tap on meridian points on your face and head while making statements about shit that is bothering you. There are tons of videos on Youtube to help you get started. Brad Yates is my favorite.  Here’s one of his fabulous videos to get your started tapping.

 

Again, tapping was something that I was doing nearly every day before I moved and needs to get added back to my daily morning routine.

 

Forgiveness

This is a biggy, but is so important. Practicing forgiveness everyday to people who have harmed or hurt us, frees us from negativity and anger. To do this everyday, you just say either outloud or in your mind, “I forgive you” when they pop into your head. With a bit of time, you’ll find your heart is lighter and your zen will return.

 

I’ve not been doing this at all which is probably why I’ve been so full of resentment and anger lately. It’s time to get rid of that shit once and for all so forgiveness is going to be added to my daily morning practice.

 

So if you’re not feeling the woo-woo zen like me, try the techniques I’ve listed above. Life is too short to live it in anger and resentment.

 

Now go find your zen!

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How to Handle Huge Life Changes

How to Handle Huge Life Changes

 

Moving to a new home has a way of putting our lives into such a unique perspective. One that we don’t get to experience very often. When we pack everything we own into boxes and clear out our current living space in order to move to a new home, feelings can come up that we may or may not be used to experiencing.
 
So how do we deal with these feelings that come up when we are faced with a huge major life change like a move, a marriage, a divorce, a new job….etc?

 

Allow your emotions to flow
Do something that makes you feel good
Reach out to your support system

 

Allow your emotions to flow

When your going through a major change in your life, you may start to feel intense emotions that you don’t normally feel like anxiety, fear, happiness, joy or any other emotion. If you are an empath like I am, sometimes these emotions can be extremely overwhelming. The best thing to do with them, however is to just let them flow. Don’t hold them in. If you are feeling very happy and joyful, sing, dance or express that happiness in whatever way suits you. Same goes for the other emotions. If you are sad and need to have a cry, do it. Cry and let yourself be sad for a bit.

 

Throughout my move back to New Mexico, I allowed myself to feel whatever I was feeling at the time. When I felt sad, I gave myself permission to cry. When I felt happy, I gave myself permission to listen to music and dance.

 

Do something that makes you feel good

When your life feels out of control and the change you are experiencing is overwhelming, stop what you are doing and go do something that you did before the change that makes you feel good. If you like to knit or crochet, do that. If you like to game, go play a game. If movies and music is your thing, pop on the radio and listen to your favorite music or go watch a movie or tv show that you love. It doesn’t matter what it is that you do as long as it’s something that you enjoy and makes you feel good.

 

For example, during my move to New Mexico I would listen to music when I was feeling overwhelmed or anxious. Other times I would watch either a movie or tv show that I just love.

 

Reach Out to Your Support System

Sometimes when we are experiencing huge changes in our lives, we forget that we are not alone and we have people who love and care about us. Reaching out to them via phone or social media can be a huge help to relieving the stress and onslaught of emotions we experience during a huge life change. All it takes is ‘hello, do you have time for a chat?’

 

When I was driving across the US last week and for my first few days back here in the Que, I made sure I stayed in contact with both my family and friends. Through talking to them, I was able to alleviate a lot of my anxiety and fear about the move which has made the transition so much smoother.

 

So if you are going through any sort of huge life change, be it a move to a new home/town or any other change, remember this:

 

Let your emotions flow
Do something that makes you feel good
Reach out to your support system

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It’s Never Too Late to Start Over

It’s never to late to start over.

 

It’s early again and I’m up at the crack of dawn, drinking some hot tea, doing some laundry and writing. It feels so good to be writing again. So what do I have to say today?

 

It’s never too late to start over.

 

As I walk around my home and think about how drastically my life has changed in the past week, I realize that it’s really never too late to start over. You may think that it is in your mind, but it really isn’t.

 

You can always start over.

 

If you don’t like your job, you can get another one and start over.

If you don’t like the business you are in, you can close it, open a new one and start over.

If you don’t like where you live, you can pack your things, move somewhere new and start over.

If you don’t like your friends, you can ditch them, make new friends and start over.

If you don’t like the colors of the walls in your home, you can pick out new colors, paint and start over.

 

You can pretty much start over anything in your life if you are just willing to take that first critical and crucial step, make some changes and start over.

 

Think about this for a minute. You have one life to live. One. It’s your life and you can choose to live it however you want. If you aren’t happy, then what’s the point? Maybe you need to stop doing what you are doing and start doing the things that make you happy.

 

Life is to short to spend time doing things that don’t bring you joy and happiness. No matter what is happening in your life right now, you have the choice and the power to change and to start over.

 

It’s never too late to start over.

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What I Know Right Now

What I Know Right Now

 

It’s been an interesting couple of weeks in my dream created life. Between moving ¾ away across the United States and reclaiming my house after my meth-head brother’s 4 year tenure of destruction, I swear that I am still waiting to land and figure out what is really going on.

 

Here’s what I do know right here and right now.

 

1. Gratitude must be practiced everyday. No exceptions.
2. Humor must also be practiced everyday.
3. Never deny your emotions.
4. Remember that destruction comes before creation.

Last week, I was on my way back to New Mexico from Massachusetts. I drove about 2300 miles alone with 5 cats across 9 states. When I finally got back to my home, I finally faced down what was one of my worst fears in the past few months: my brother had destroyed most of my things and a considerable amount my home, a home that I’ve owned for 10 years as of August of this year. He also had 3-5 people living here and some of their stuff was and is still here even as I sit here writing this at 3 am on Monday morning. I’m living out of a duffle bag and have yet to really settle in yet. I’m getting there though.  Day-by-day, little-by-little, my life back here in New Mexico is starting to stabilize.

 

I’ve ran through just about every single emotion that exists as a result. Sadness, anger, confusion, happiness, joy….you name an emotion and I’ve experienced it in the past week.

 

So…..here I am today and I have this to share.

 

Gratitude. Practice it EVERY DAY!

Throughout this whole experience, I’ve made it a point to find at least 5 things that I am thankful for everyday. Some days, it’s been a challenge, but I’ve done it regardless of what emotion I’ve been feeling at the time. No exceptions.

 

Humor. Find the Funny.

No matter what the situation, find some shit to laugh at and and again, practice this everyday.

 

Just as with gratitude, find the funny. Make a joke. Remember to laugh with your whole heart and body cause it feels good. I’ve somehow been able to find a ton of funny shit to laugh at everyday despite the fact that so much of my stuff has either been destroyed, sold or who even knows what happened to it.

 

Let Your Feelings Flow.

Never ever ever deny what you are feeling. Ever.

 

Get those emotions out. If you need to be angry for a moment, be angry. Feeling down or sad, feel sad. Cry if you need to. Yell and hit pillows (or demo a bathroom like I did yesterday with my dad) when no one is around if you are feeling angry. Let that shit out, but don’t let it consume you.

Remember that destruction comes before creation.

Before you can let new stuff into your life, there has to be a tearing down of the old stuff, no matter what that means to you. Right now in my life, destruction has become quite literal, but in the best way. I am in the process of tearing down what my brother destroyed to make room for new and better stuff. Yesterday, I had the wonderful pleasure of taking a sledgehammer and a crowbar to one of the bathrooms. I forgot how much I love demolition.

 

So that’s what I know right now:

Gratitude
Humor
Emotions
Destruction before Creation

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