3 Reasons Why I Love Monday

In my last post, I talked about why I love Friday. As a follow up to that, I thought this post was appropriate. 3 reasons why I love Monday.

 

It’s the start of the week and I’m sitting here in my office with sparkles in my eyes.  Yeah, corny I know, but absolutely true. Monday is one of my favorite days of the week because the possibilities are endless for the week. I work from home and after the weekend has ended, Monday signals the beginning of my work week and as a result, I end up working more on Monday than I do any other day of the week.

 

Here’s why I love Monday (and why you should too)

Monday is #1

 

Not in the sense that it won a race and came in first, but it is the first day of the new week.  Think about it as a new beginning cause it is. Businesses reopen. Everyone is rested from the weekend. It’s #1! I love Monday because I always get so much done after slacking around all weekend and having fun.

 

It’s a great time to start projects

 

If you’ve spent your weekend partying or resting, Monday is the day to begin a new project. I usually start scripts or chapters of books on Monday because it’s when I’m the most rested and usually raring to go. The first day of the week is my powerhouse day for writing so I take advantage of it whenever I can.

 

It’s a great day to look forward

 

Not only is it a great day to start a project, it’s a great day to make plans for your week or month or whatever. The start of the week is when I chart out my week of writing and other work related duties.  I sometimes like to figure out what I’m going to do for the weekend too. Planning usually takes up a good chunk of my time on Monday and I look forward to it every week. I make plans to write, work out and do what I need to do to keep my life and business in order.

 

So that’s why I love Monday.

 

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Celebrate Everything

It’s that time of year again.  The holidays are here and it’s time to gather with friends and family to celebrate.  Celebrate everything. Seriously. Have fun.  Drink the egg nogs, eat the cookies and have yourself a merry time indeed!

It’s party time!!!

That’s what I plan on doing.  December is usually a pretty low key month for me. I tend to be like a bear and hibernate a bit in between all of the holiday hoopla and insanity. I do some writing, but really, I spend more time reflecting back on the past twelve months, celebrating the wins and dissecting the losses.

This December has been no different and when I look back on 2016, all I can say is WOW!  Holy shit!  I did all that this year?

Yep…I did.  I manifested it all.

So What Did I Do All Year?

From e-courses, blogs, two books and countless scripts and screenplays that have yet to be shot and unleashed on the world, it has been a most productive year indeed.  I made a film in 48 hours with some friends of mine for the 48 hour film project and  started a production company, Risa Tortuga Productions.  I also wrote and directed my first ever short film and I have had the honor to help a dear friend bring one of her goals to life in the form of a podcast talk show, Women, Wit and Wine.

So….I sit here in amazement of my life yet again. Happiness and joy floods my heart cause I went for it, wholeheartedly to create and embrace the career that I have always wanted, self employed writer/movie maker. Best part of all of this is I’m  just getting started.  Next year is going to be even more productive. I can’t wait to share it all with you.

I also manifested the love of my life.  Funny how that one popped up when I was least expecting it, but I did at some point earlier this year write down everything that I wanted in a lover/boyfriend and the Universe brought him to me.  (Actually, he had been around for a while, I just needed to recognize and acknowledge him.) He’s so super cool and my best friend which I am super thankful for. He writes a blog too (The Many Sides of Renee) and is getting ready to release a book soon (when I get off my bum and finish editing it…ha ha ha).

Anyway, I digress.

Anything is possible. You just need to believe.  Believe you are worthy. Believe you deserve the thing you desire.  Take action and little steps…..

And celebrate.  Get your party on. Do what makes you happy and revel in it.

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Who’s Driving?

Who’s Driving?

Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been on a mission. A mission to create, write, try new things, do more and be more me.

 

This journey, my journey, is no longer directed by others, but is being lead by my heart. My soul is on fire to share who I am, what I’ve learned and what I know about life, love, humor and all kinds of other wonderful things I’ve picked up along the travels of my life.

 

I will not hide who I am any longer behind the ‘shoulds, coulds and must do’ bullshit.

 

My sunshiny blinders are on and I’m back to creating and writing in a way that makes me feel good and happy and joyful. Everyday…every single freaking day!

 

How did I ever get to such a place?

 

I don’t know, but I am glad to be here.

 

Listen to your heart.

 

Let it do the driving for awhile!

 

So how do you even begin to do that?

 

For years, I wondered that myself. Listen to your heart and let it lead you.

 

But how?

 

I guess it begins by turning inward a bit and tuning out the cacophony of voices surrounding you. You start by listening first to the whispers of your soul that remind you of who you really are before the world around you herded you into what they thought you should be. You get quiet, and you listen…..

 

You remember all of the dreams you had as a kid. You know the ones. The ones that you openly shared with anyone who would listen back then.

 

Everyone believed you and encouraged you to dream back then because it was totally reasonable for a 5 year old to want to be the president, a movie star and an astronaut, ruling the country from outer space whilst making movies at the same time.

 

At some point, the encouragement stopped and your dreams, suddenly they were ‘unreasonable’, ‘crazy’ or ‘wild’. You were told to grow up and do something reasonable and safe with your life.

 

You stopped listening to your heart and began to listen to all of the peole around you who told you what you ‘should’ be doing because you had an aptitude for something. You quit trusting yourself and did what they said to do because they promised a life of comfort, safety and financial stability.

 

But you were never satisfied with that. You looked out the window while at work and wondered “Is this it? Is this my life? Am I always going to be in the office, hospital, laboratory for the rest of my life?” and it made you want to cry and run away.

 

Maybe it didn’t happen all at once, but eventually and slowly you started to remember all of the dreams you had as a kid. You became quiet and you listened and your heart opened up and reminded you of who you were before the world told you what you needed to be.

 

As you listened, you started to dream again and believe that there was more to living a life of obligation and expectation. You trusted yourself more and began to shed the chains of the prison you created for yourself by doing what they told you to do because it was ‘safe’.

 

Eventually after some time of listening, you decided to truly break free because the pain of the role that you took because others told you to became too much to bear and you couldn’t live one more day doing things that you did not like or enjoy.

 

You drew a line in the sand….

 

You listened to your heart and let it guide you on your new journey, taking on a new part of your own creation, filled with joy and happiness and heaps of laughter.

 

The life that you used to have no longer exists for you now.

 

You’ve become soul driven with a purpose. An awesome fabulous purpose!

 

And you will not quit or give up on your dreams anymore.

 

Or try to be someone or something you aren’t.

 

Those days are long gone

 

Because you listen to your heart now.

It does the driving.

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What’s Your Thing?

What’s Your Thing?

 

Yesterday I posted this on my Facebook profile:

 

Anyone out there have a ‘thing’…..something that you would NEVER tell or show anyone ever!

We all have our things. One of my most favorite things is my helmet.

I own a costume Viking helmet. Sometimes I like to put it on my head and dance around my living room while listening to 80’s music. It makes me feel good.

Do have a ‘thing’ that you own that makes you feel good or something that you do when no one is watching?

 

I didn’t think anyone noticed it as Facebook is so weird with their algorithm that only lets your posts been seen by people who have danced naked in the moonlight and scraped the lichens off the trees at the stroke of midnight during a rain storm or some other thing as far as I know.

 

Anyway..people did notice it.  One of my dear friends asked me if I were going to write a blog about it, so here I am, writing about my viking helmet and other various things that I many people don’t know about me or that I have not been comfortable in the past sharing.  Today is a new day though….:)

 

First there is the viking helmet.  Yes, I own a viking helmet and I like to wear it when I am feeling bad because it somehow makes me feel better.  More powerful even. Don’t ask me why it makes me feel better as I don’t really even know.  It just does.  I also like to wear it when I dance around my living room after I’ve been sitting too long at my desk working.

 

I also own a collection of hats that I have been known to wear to parties or on holidays.  Some of my favorite ones are a velvet joker’s hat, a non-traditional springy Santa hat, a turkey hat and an octopus hat.  I love my silly hats!

 

I really hate bras.  Like hate them.  In fact, usually the only time I wear a bra is if I am going out in public.  Otherwise, my girls are free.  It’s a beautiful thing.

 

I currently weigh 248 pounds!  Yikes!  I’m on 5’2″ so that makes me morbidly obese according to the BMI chart. I’m not happy with my weight so I guess it’s time I do something about that, huh?  Here’s my thoughts about being overweight: my weight and fat does not make me a horrible person.  It just means that I have more fat on my body than others.  I am still beautiful and awesome, just a little bigger.

 

I’ve had 32 jobs in my life time and I’m only 42.  Yep, you read that right.  32 jobs.  I’ve been fired formally from 4 of them.  Most of them I have quit.  Here’s a summary of my favorite ones:  Retail manager, Microbiologist, Dominatrix, International Sales Manager, Business owner, Writer, Actor.

 

I don’t believe in the status quo and believe that people should question authority and act with ethics and morals even though it might not be what other people are doing  On that same note, I am not affiliated with any political party, but I still vote.

 

I love stories and movies.  I watch at least one movie a day when I can because I just love them.  I fell in love with movies as a kid and used to ditch class on Fridays to go catch the premieres of some of the big blockbusters of the late 80’s and early 90’s.  Getting to work on films has been on the biggest highlights and best things I have ever done in my life.  In the future, I hope to write, produce and act in at least one film and get my SAG card  when I get moved and settled in back in New Mexico.

 

I read on average 2-3 books a week. Some of them fiction, some of them non-fiction.  I love stories and find so much inspiration in them, much like I do the movies.

 

I don’t believe in organized religion, but rather a great spirit or energy that rules  supreme.  I self identify myself as a pagan and I celebrate Samhain, Yule, Beltane and Midsummer.  I don’t really care what religion you are either as long as you do not try to recruit me.  That shit pisses me off.

 

These are just a few of my things that I don’t normally share with others.

 

Do you have a thing that you normally wouldn’t share or want other people to know about?

 

I believe that we all have our things, our strange and odd idiosyncrasies or beliefs or life experiences that we just are not comfortable sharing and I totally understand.  I think we keep some things to ourselves because we are afraid of being judged or that maybe people just won’t like us.  That fear is a mighty powerful one too, the fear of not being liked.  I know that I have spent way too much time in my life worrying about what other people think and acting in a way that I thought would make me more likable and less weird.

 

Somehow though, I’ve gotten to this point where I just don’t give a shit whether people like me or not.  Either they do or they do not.  Other people don’t live my life and whether they like me or not is my problem.  I like me.  I am comfortable enough in my own skin to be myself.  I am tired of hiding who I am just to please other people.

 

That’s the last of my ‘things’!

 

So what’s your thing?

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Oh The Horror! On Friends and Frenemies

Oh the horror!

 

I’ve recently just discovered that someone I have known for years has unfriended and blocked me on social media! Of course, this was after I told her a few weeks ago that I don’t consider her a friend and haven’t for a while.

 

OK ..now what?

 

Woo hoo….Rejoice and be happy!

 

Why?

 

Because this person obviously isn’t and hasn’t been much of a friend or part of my life for a long time.

 

And then I saw what had really happened here.

 

In the spirit of all of this decluttering and cleaning that I have been doing recently, I have been realizing a few things about some of my past friendships and people I used to consider friends. People that once upon a time, I liked and cared about. People that I used to look up to.

 

Over the past few years, I have had to walk away from several of them because on my quest to be myself, unfiltered, unapologetic, wonderful and beautiful self, I have found that many of them had not been acting like friends should in my opinion. In fact, I would have to say that many of these so-called friends did not act much like friends at all. They were behaving as frenemies.

 

You know what I’m talking about.  We’ve all had frenemies of one kind or another.  They are the ones who pretend to be your friends, but really couldn’t give a fucking fuck about you, your life, your business or pretty much anything about you.  They call and connect when it’s convenient.  They will hang up on you accidentally and not call back for weeks. They only talk about themselves and whatever is going on with them.  When you need them or call them, they are like a fart in the wind, gone in an instant.

 

I, of course, kept trying to keep the friendships with these frenemies going even though I didn’t like many of them.

 

I know, I know. Sounds crazy, but it’s what I used to do. Hold on for dear life to these people and hope that in the future, they would start acting like the people that I wanted them to be or as they had been in the past.

 

Dammit! What a waste of my time…..

 

But that was then, this is now….

 

My filter is gone, my give-a-fuck meter is broken

 

And I refuse to settle for frenemies.

 

So what’s the lesson here?

 

You can’t change people. You can’t hope and wish and pray that they will change into who you want them to be like. You either accept them as is or move on. I’m choosing move on more and more these days. Call it the Great Culling of Fake Friends and Frenemies.

 

It’s ok to want to be treated with love and kindness and be surrounded by people who support you and think you are a fabulous.

 

You don’t have to stay friends with anyone that doesn’t make you feel good or makes you feel bad or treats you badly (this goes for romantic relationships too)

 

It’s ok to walk away and leave failed friendships behind, either with or without a confrontation. It’s your life and you deserve to be happy and feel good

 

It’s ok to be a little sad when one of them walks away or you walk away. Just don’t ruminate on it and go find some new friends.

 

You are wonderful and special and your friends should treat you as such.

 

Don’t settle for fake friends or frenemies.

 

You deserve only the best in life and friends!

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Some Thoughts About Fear From a Super Bok-Bok Chicken

Did you see the size of that chicken?

No really!  Did you?

Probably not, but I am the chicken.  The super big bok bok chicken that is bopping around a big field with no reason or purpose, squawking away at things I need to get done, but am putting off and procrastinating.

So why does this happen?  How can I go from being super confident and productive to being a bok bok super chicken?

One word:

FEAR

Yep.

I said it.

I’ll say it again.

FEAR

I freaking hate it when I get fearful cause really, most of the time whatever I am afraid of usually isn’t even anything real like gun to my head or a lion chasing me.  Seriously!

Fear paralyzes me.  Fear distracts me.  Fear turns me into a big fat bok bok chicken who scurries away and doesn’t get the things that need to get done, done….and I can be really good at being a chicken.

So mm…how do I deal with my fear? How do I feel my fear and still get shit done?

Well, first of all, I acknowledge it.  I say “Hello, Fear.  How are you today? I hope you are doing fine.” Then I offer it a cup of tea.

Then, I let myself feel it.  Like really feel it in my skin and bones.  I let it hang out a while.  I know that people will say that fear should be banished, but I don’t think it does.  I believe we need to give ourselves permission to feel it and let it be. It’s part of who we are. Eventually, using love, kindness and dream energized action, I ask it to leave once it’s sat down and had it’s cup of tea.

The next part of dealing with fear involves action.  Dream energized action. I move forward and get to work.  I get into dream energized action. I start doing stuff that is inspired by my dream created life. Some of the things I do are small things.  Some are more monumental. The point is that I get into action and I do something!! It may seem forced at first, but eventually the fear lessens and  dissipates like fog does in the sun. I always feel so good when that happens and I swear, it gets easier each time to move forward and get shit done despite feeling fear.

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Jump into dream energized action!

For me, my dream energized action takes different shapes. Sometimes that means spending an hour or two writing a blog or working on my book.  Last week, despite a shitload of fear and many bok bok super chicken moments, I wrote a bunch of emails to people I wanted to interview for my latest article.  Other times, I reach out and ask for help and support in one of the forums I belong to.

The point is, it’s ok to have fear and  be a bok bok chicken for a moment.  Fear shows up in all of our lives, it hangs around and keeps us from getting shit done.  If you allow it to just chill for time with a bit of permission,  it will leave once you’ve chosen to jump into dream inspired action.

So if you are feeling like a super bok bok chicken, don’t fret!  It’s only temporary!  Find something, even ONE thing that you can work on today with dream energized action.






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Joyful Parenting: An Interview with Christine Marion-Jolicoeur

Peace.  Calm.  Joy.  Are they elusive or are they attainable no matter what sort of life you live? What about if you have kids?

Recently, I had the pleasure of talking to my friend, Christine, about finding joy, calm and peace as a parent amidst the rigors of our modern lives and her program, Joyful You, for mothers.

Let’s see what Christine has to say!

What is Joyful You?

Joyful You is coaching + e-courses that help busy mums find easy ways to bring joy into their parenting and everyday life, so they can raise healthy, connected kids.

Tell us a little bit about yourself. What is your background?

I’m a coach, writer and joyful mum of two amazing boys. I studied sociology, psychology and social work in university and have been doing social work as my day job for the past 10+ years. I may be an Amazon #1 bestselling author, published in Huffington Post and elephant journal, but being a mum is the best and hardest job I’ve ever had.

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Joyful parents are something that I believe everyone wishes they had or were. How did you come up with this concept? What is a Joyful Parent to you?

After I had my kids I felt really anxious and overwhelmed. Some days I was absolutely consumed by the mummy guilt. I realized I wasn’t showing up for them the way that I wanted to and that I needed to be a strong, positive role model first, before I could teach them all of the skills and qualities I wanted for them. So I did a lot of self-development work, invested in myself and made the decision to focus on joy (which is the opposite of all of those icky things I was feeling at the time.)

In my house, Joyful Parenting means mindfulness + gratitude + fun and parenting on purpose means making conscious choices, focusing on kindness and setting healthy boundaries.

What inspired you to write your e-course and start coaching women in Joyful Parenting?

I started Joyful You as a way to share what I’ve learned with other mums, because I remember what it was like to feel lost and confused. I remember crying all the time. I remember loving my kids so much and trying so hard to be a perfect parent. I remember the sleepless nights and the foggy days and feeling like it would never get better. I remember looking everywhere for answers and ending up being even more overwhelmed than before. I remember how it felt to ask for help. I remember how it felt to have someone listen to me and support me. And I remember how that changed everything.

What has been your best experience or story about Joyful Parenting? (can be your own or from a client)

One of my favourite moments was when a mum sent me a picture of her smiling baby. I loved seeing how proud she was of her family and knowing that the work we were doing together would have an impact of that sweet little face too. Best.Feeling.Ever.

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What can your clients get in your Joyful Parenting Courses and Coaching?

All of my coaching packages and e-courses focus on helping mums get really clear about their goals and priorities + build their confidence and skills. They learn new healthy habits, how to set boundaries and how to communicate with their partner and kids. And in the end, mums feel more self-aware and mindful and the whole family is more connected.

What do you hope Joyful Parenting can do for others?

Joyful You is all about helping mums let go of the guilt and anxiety so they can see how amazing they are and how their imperfections make them the perfect parent for their kids. We’re all a work in progress and sometimes you need a coach or an e-course to teach you new ways of thinking that will take you to that next level.

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Do you have a website?

My website is Joyful You.

Do you have a blog or anything else that you would like to share with my readers?

My blog is Joyful Parenting.

And I have two free gifts for your readers…

The Joyful Parenting ebook: your 6 step guide to confidence, clarity + connection with your kids when you need it most and the Joyful You ebook: recharge, reconnect + remember who you are in just 5 minutes! You can find them here: Joyful Parenting Free Gifts

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Christine, creator of Joyful You
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What is a Love Tank?

Over the weekend, I started reading a new book  by John Gray entitled  “How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have.”  You might know John Gray from his series of Mars and Venus books which are great whether you are in a romantic relationship or not.

Anyway…this book isn’t about relationships like his other books.  It’s about being happy with our lives in the now, wanting and appreciating what we have, and getting what we want in the future.  When I first picked up the book having already read most of his other works, this book seemed like a great departure for Gray considering that most of his other writings focus on relationships.

I was intrigued and interested anyway so I decided to read it.  Just a few chapters in and I love what he has to say about love. He also has this concept of Love Tanks.  Love, he says, is the key to appreciating what you have, be it a job, money, relationship and whatever else you can think of.  He categorizes love into different types as well such as love from god or the spirit, love from parents, love from friends, etc….  and for each love type, there is a corresponding love tank that can only be filled by that type of love. When I first read that, I was visualizing it in my head …love type and love tank. I love the concept of a love tank!

So here’s the deal with the love tanks. When a love tank gets empty, you have to fill it up with the type of love it’s labeled with.  The other thing about these love tanks is that when one of them is empty or low, that’s when we get frustrated, resentful, sad, angry and/or depressed in our lives.  I know that concept is kind of out there, but not really when you think about it.  When we are missing the love from Spirit or God, we feel lost and disconnected with everything and may get depressed or feel lost or stuck.  When our love tank from our peers is empty, we feel disconnected and feel lonely.

Of course, there is much more that he says about these concepts in the book which I highly recommend reading if you are studying the Law of Attraction or are interested in getting more of what you want and wanting what you got.

Now go fill your love tanks!

 

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A Beauty and Love Filled Day

Today is one of those amazing beautiful days here in New England.  The sun is shining, there aren’t any clouds in the sky and the temperature is just right, not too hot nor too cold. I was looking out one of my windows out towards the little creek that runs behind my house, and I saw a young deer drinking from the stream.  It was beautiful. I love days like this because I can open the windows and let the lovely cool breeze flow into the house. It’s a beauty and loved filled day.

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A beauty and loved filled day as seen from my back door

I’m working on a new manuscript, putting the finishing touches on it so I can get it out to you, my dear readers.  I love writing and this new book, I’ve written it from my heart about something that I am so passionate about.  I’m excited to finish it because I am excited to publish it so it can help people.

It’s a funny thing, being a writer. I love being a writer. I never knew how much I loved writing until I made the decision to become.  It was a choice and one that I am really glad I made. I’ve always been a writer in my heart, but I never pursued it because I had chosen a particular career path that didn’t support or include being creative or writing.

Now that I’ve left that career behind and since I’ve started practicing the Law of Attraction and made the decision to be a writer, I get to pursue it with relentless fervor, passion and love. I now wake up in the morning with a fire in my heart and a joy for my life that I’ve never had before.  I hope that everyone gets to feel that way when they wake up in the morning and set out to do whatever it is they are going to do.

So with that said, my manuscript is calling. I hope you all have a beautiful, passion and love filled day!