Free Book Week!

Free Book Week is Here!

I’m so flipping excited right now. My publisher and I just re-released my book “Break the Bank” and in celebration of it, I’m offering it free over on Amazon for a limited time only!

Woo hoo hoo!

So why should you read it? 

Well because it’ll help you get free from some of those shit money beliefs you might have like

“Money is evil”

“Rich people are born lucky”

Etc…..

Maybe you cringe when you have to deal with money or pay bills.

Yeah…I so know the feeling which is why I wrote this book.  I used to cringe when I had to look at my bank account.  Paying bills used to feel like torture. Pretty much anything to do with money used to make my butt twitch in the worst way…

But then I learned  a few things and decided they were so valuable, I put them in a book.

You can break free from your limiting money beliefs!

You can love money no matter how much money you have right now.

Anyway…..I’m not going to super pitch it here cause over on Amazon there’s a pretty lengthy description. (Feel free to check it out, there’s even a free sample to read if you’re unsure!)

BUT I did want to make this little announcement here today.

Break the Bank is free on Amazon!

All you gotta do is head on over to Amazon and hit the buy button and it’s all yours.

Yay!!

 

Click here or the picture to get your free copy!

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Boundaries and The Bottom Line

Boundaries and the Bottom Line

(aka:  why I won’t work for free anymore)

 

Recently someone said to me something about boundaries and it got me thinking about them, the kind others have and the ones I have for myself.

 

Boundaries, limits, the proverbial line in the sand. What do you allow?  What is acceptable and what is not acceptable?

 

And this year, I am setting some serious boundaries with myself and my business both as a writer and producer.

 

Why? Because it’s time.

 

As I look over my past, I realize that by not setting boundaries, I have not honored myself. I’ve not appreciated and placed a high enough value on my skills and talents, and by doing so, I have suffered both emotionally and financially.

 

Let me explain. For many years, I would get a job offer and I would just take it, no matter what the pay was or the job. I did not place much value on my skills and abilities so I never asked for much. I was also taught to just take what you can get and just deal with it. “Make do,” as my mother would say. As a result, I ended up working for people who had no respect for me and who treated me as such.

 

In all of those years, I felt used and quite terrible about it.  I never really knew why because I never thought about it much. It all felt really wrong though. I was told to work hard and just do my job so I did just that for years on end.  Another phenomenon that I experienced during that was was regarding the quality of my work. The better my work was, the more work they gave me. Not pay, not respect, just more work.

 

And I get it. I was easy to take advantage of back then because I didn’t know any better.  I thought that maybe this was the way the world worked.

 

Now, a few years ago, I began to experience an awakening of sorts.  Maybe that wasn’t the way the world worked. I started writing full time, I started a business and I left my previous career behind me….

 

Or so I thought.

 

As I stepped into a more creative role and found my tribe, I’ve found such joy and happiness. I can’t imagine not being in this business, doing what I do now, writing and creating cool and amazing stuff cause deep down, it feels right and I love it.

 

What doesn’t feel right at this moment, however, is the fact that I keep allowing people to take advantage of me, my generosity, skills and talent.

 

Yes, I am taking responsibility for allowing it to happen because I am nice and I want to help as many people as I can be successful and live the life of their dreams. I’ve spent hours working on projects for people and not asked for money because I trusted them and believed that they valued me and my work and eventually, they would pay me. I was always afraid to bring up money and ask for money.

 

How very wrong I have been.

 

My time is precious to me. When I spend time working for someone be it as a writer or a producer or director and I don’t get paid, it hurts me…emotionally and financially.  When I think about all of the hours I have spent using my creativity and skills to help someone create or promote or make something awesome, I get angry because had they hired someone else, they would have paid them.

 

So….when I think about hiring someone to do something for me, no matter what it is, I want to pay them because they have spent time and used their skill and talent to help me in some way. I would never expect a plumber or mechanic to work on my house or my car for free.  What makes it ok to not pay someone (aka me) who is creating something for someone else to use to better their life or business?  Creative writing is work and it has value.

 

 

So with that being said, I am not going to work for free anymore. My time is valuable. My skills, abilities and creativity are valuable. I cannot pay my bills with ” thank you’s” and “I appreciate you”.  I am valuable and what I do creatively has value.

 

If you want to hire me, great, however, from this moment forward, do not expect me to work for free.  I will speak up, write a contract and ask to be paid. I am drawing my line in the sand and setting a boundary.

And that’s the bottom line.

 

Have You Found Easy Street?

Easy Street!  Have you heard of Easy Street?  There’s a song from the musical Annie called Easy Street. It’s pretty funny, but it’s not the kind of Easy Street I am talking about.

 

I love a different kind of Easy Street.  I do. That’s not to say that I don’t like challenges cause I like those too, but not everything has to be hard. Difficult. Insurmountable, does it?

 

So why am I bringing this up today.  Easy Street.

 

Well, it’s because I was having a conversation with my mom a few days ago and she started to talk about working hard. How she and my father have worked hard their whole lives. Then she started to talk about how hard is it to have a successful business and how hard it is to make money.

 

Anyone else ever hear these sentiments from well-meaning family or friends?

 

“Making money is hard”

“Life is hard.”

“You have to sacrifice your happiness and joy to get anywhere in life”

 

I really have an issue with these statements because I used to agree with them. I was brought up to believe that life had to be hard and a constant struggle. I worked myself to craziness and well, it wasn’t much fun.

 

What changed?

 

Me. My mindset.

I changed my mindset.

So how does that work?

 

Well, by changing our mindset and choosing ease over difficulty. By choosing to change those statements and forming our own new ones that reflect our change in mindset.

For example

Life is hard, becomes Life is easy.

Making money is hard, becomes Making money is easy.

 

It’s such a simple shift, but it makes all the difference in the world.

 

When I learned this lesson, I swear that things really did become easy.

 

I found Easy Street.

 

When I needed to finish a project, it was easy and I finished it quicker than I could have imagined.

 

Like just this week, I was working on a proposal for a PSA. Now in the past, I would have thought “OMG, this is soooo hard. How can I finish this in less than a week? I’m not going to finish.”

 

I didn’t tell myself that this time though. When I started to write both the script and the proposal, I said “This is going to be a piece of cake. Writing this proposal is going to be easy and I will finish it way before the deadline.”

 

And guess what happened!

 

I did finish it, 2 days before the proposal was due (and it’s damn good if I do say so myself)!

 

Do YOU want to live on Easy Street?

xoxox

Tobi

P.S. I’m having a HUGE sale on my e-courses right now.  2-for-1!  Get both awesome courses for $25.00. You don’t want to miss out because when I take them off the website, I might not re-release them.

How Did I Get Here

How did I get here?

 

I used to wonder if I got ‘here’ by accident or if it was my own doing.

 

And ‘here’…where is ‘here’ exactly?

 

Well, ‘here’ is my home. My house, in my office with the computer, surrounded by two of my cats who insist on ‘helping’ me work (eg walking about on my desk, sitting on my mouse pad and staring at me while I type).

 

‘Here’ means other things as well.

 

I now work for myself creating and doing what I want to do.

 

I no longer punch a clock every day and work in a lab. I don’t spend all day on the phone chasing leads and pitching strangers. I also do not walk around a sales floor, chatting with customers to help them find what they need in the shop.

 

‘Here’ is freedom.

‘Here’ is openness.

‘Here’ is mine.

 

See, just over two years ago, my journey to ‘here’ really began when I found myself unemployed again and struggling to understand how in the hell I managed to get myself fired….again. I was a good employee. I had skills and did a good job, yet I was no longer wanted. I was labeled trouble and sent on my way.

 

Truth is though, I never liked that job or the people I worked for or with so really, it was a blessing to get fired.

 

Yes, I hated my job….

 

Now what does that have to do with ‘here’…..

 

Well, I felt like I was in a sort of free fall after being let go….a ‘what the fuck do I do now with my life?’ now sort of place.

 

And I had questions….Why did this happen again? What part did I play? What did I do wrong and right? How can I make my life better in the future? And so forth and so on….

 

As I sought to answer those questions, I discovered the Law of Attraction through a movie of all things, ‘ The Secret’ and I wondered……

 

Could this be the answer? Have I been manifesting all of my life and not knowing it? Bringing things into my life that I didn’t necessarily want (or did I?)

 

I hated that job and for months would ruminate on getting fired….
then it happened!

 

When I made that connection, it was like someone opened the dark clouds and the sun shone directly on me.

 

So what did I do next?

 

I studied, I learned. I applied what I learned about the Law of Attraction.

 

And now, well I’m ‘here’…..

 

When I look back over the past 2 years, I have manifested so many awesome things in my life. Things that I never would have thought possible back when I was still punching a clock.

 

For example:

 

I haven’t had a regular job in over 2 years.
I work from home.
I work for myself.
I set my schedule.
Money shows up when I need it.
I create and write and do what I want to do.
I study and am trying to learn as much as I can.

 

I live the Law of Attraction!

 

And you can too!

 

You can create your own ‘here’, whatever that may be. It’s your life.

 

Where are you? Do you like where you are?

 

If you aren’t happy with your ‘here’, learn how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want in my latest e-course, Dream It! Feel It! Have It!

XOXO,

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Happy Birthday

Holy Shit!

I’m 43 today!

Woo hoo!

 

So in honor of my birthday and I’m celebrating and I’m crazy….

 

I’m offering BOTH of my current programs for just that!

$43.00!

 

For the super awesome price of Forty-three US dollars, you get

 

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Color Your Dream  (Normally $99 dollars)

And

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Break the Bank (Normally $30.00)

 

FOR ONLY $43.00USD!

Cause I was born on the 4th, you can pick up this bundle for 4 days and 4 days only!

 

Happy Happy Birthday to me and to you too!!

 

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Can You Feel The Excitement?

Can YOU Feel the Excitement?

So I’ve been home for a few weeks now, dealing with well, what I’ve been dealing with: The house, the family, friends…etc…. and I’ve been slacking in my business a bit.

 

Today, however, I am kicking it in the ass!

 

Can you feel the excitement?

 

Oh I can!

 

I’m back to creating and it feels sooo damn good!

 

First thing I’ve created today is a Daily Positive Affirmation list. I love this soo much that I’m going to share it with all of you….for FREE!

 

Everyday, I’m going to create a Positive Affirmation and email it to any one that wants it!

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Second thing I am working on is a few new courses. When talking to my tribe, I kept hearing a lot about money. How to make more, how to not hate it, how to increase incomes, etc…..

 

SO I am in the process of creating a money mindset course. Right now it’s in the infancy stage, but if you’d like to know when it launches AND you’d like to get early bird pricing, send me your email and I’ll send you the deets as soon as they are ready.

 

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The Third exciting thing on the day is the other course I am brewing up in my brain. I’ve got an idea for a course for empaths, you know, us sensitive souls.

 

To learn more about the Empath course and find out when it launches plus get early bird pricing on that one, fill out the form below.

 

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The Fabulous Empath Course is going to launch

 






I am an Empath too!

 

So there it is…..

 

Super launch Monday. Be sure to fill out all of the forms or just the ones you are interested in!

 

Yeah….I am having a very ambitious Monday and I love it!

 

Oh oh oh…this is sooo damn exciting!!

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5 Easy Steps To Removing Your Blocks To Success

You Blockhead!

5 Easy Steps To Removing Your Blocks To Success

I’ve been doing a lot of reading lately about subconscious blocks.  Not the kind you build stuff with, but the kind in our minds and hearts.   The blocks I’m talking about hold us back from what we want to do and achieve.

So what is a block?  Well, it’s found in our sub-conscious and is based on some belief we have. I’m not going to go into detail because there are tons of books on the subject that you can read.  These strong held beliefs, they hold us back and we don’t even know it.   And the other thing about them is that they can be about anything.  Money, success, love, relationships, body image..you name it.  And they are a pain in the ass.

What can you do about them?

5 Easy Steps To Removing Your Blocks To Success

(so you can have everything you want!!  WOO HOO!)

1. Identify your blocks

Do you find yourself wanting to make more money or lose weight or find a boyfriend/girlfriend, but it never works out?

You are probably have a block when it comes to whatever the thing is that you desire.  To identify the block, you need to write down what you feel when you think about the thing you want.   Here’s an example from my own list about money:

Rich people are greedy, mean, ugly and horrible people and I don’t want to be like them.
Having money turns people into self righteous assholes.
I fear that I will never have enough money.

Make your own list.

2. Identify what emotions arise when you read your list.

Next to every item on your list, write down what emotion you feel immediately when you read it.  Do the things on your list make you happy?  Sad?  Angry?  Resentful?  Joyful?

For my example above, I pretty much felt angry and resentful when I read those items.

3. Create an opposite list

For this one, you are going to want to take every item on your list and write an opposite statement.  Basically you are reframing all of the items on your list.

Using my list above, here are my opposite statements

Rich people are generous, kind and wonderful people and I  want to be like them.
Having money turns people into loving and caring people.
I will always have enough money.

4. Read your new opposite list and note your new emotions

When reading your new list, take note of your emotions again.  If you are feeling any sort of negative emotions like anger or resentment again, you need to rewrite the opposite statements until they do not bring up any negative emotions for you.

5. Review your opposite list frequently

Whenever you start to feel any negative emotions towards something that is on your original list, be it from something in your life, get out your new opposite list and read it.  After a while, you will notice that your block will start to dissipate and you’ll see and feel your life change.

I hope you’ve enjoyed this article about removing any blocks you may be having.  If you like this article, please share it and sign up above to receive my guide on How to Start Living Your Dream Created Life Today.