3 Reasons Why I Love Monday

In my last post, I talked about why I love Friday. As a follow up to that, I thought this post was appropriate. 3 reasons why I love Monday.

 

It’s the start of the week and I’m sitting here in my office with sparkles in my eyes.  Yeah, corny I know, but absolutely true. Monday is one of my favorite days of the week because the possibilities are endless for the week. I work from home and after the weekend has ended, Monday signals the beginning of my work week and as a result, I end up working more on Monday than I do any other day of the week.

 

Here’s why I love Monday (and why you should too)

Monday is #1

 

Not in the sense that it won a race and came in first, but it is the first day of the new week.  Think about it as a new beginning cause it is. Businesses reopen. Everyone is rested from the weekend. It’s #1! I love Monday because I always get so much done after slacking around all weekend and having fun.

 

It’s a great time to start projects

 

If you’ve spent your weekend partying or resting, Monday is the day to begin a new project. I usually start scripts or chapters of books on Monday because it’s when I’m the most rested and usually raring to go. The first day of the week is my powerhouse day for writing so I take advantage of it whenever I can.

 

It’s a great day to look forward

 

Not only is it a great day to start a project, it’s a great day to make plans for your week or month or whatever. The start of the week is when I chart out my week of writing and other work related duties.  I sometimes like to figure out what I’m going to do for the weekend too. Planning usually takes up a good chunk of my time on Monday and I look forward to it every week. I make plans to write, work out and do what I need to do to keep my life and business in order.

 

So that’s why I love Monday.

 

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Boundaries and The Bottom Line

Boundaries and the Bottom Line

(aka:  why I won’t work for free anymore)

 

Recently someone said to me something about boundaries and it got me thinking about them, the kind others have and the ones I have for myself.

 

Boundaries, limits, the proverbial line in the sand. What do you allow?  What is acceptable and what is not acceptable?

 

And this year, I am setting some serious boundaries with myself and my business both as a writer and producer.

 

Why? Because it’s time.

 

As I look over my past, I realize that by not setting boundaries, I have not honored myself. I’ve not appreciated and placed a high enough value on my skills and talents, and by doing so, I have suffered both emotionally and financially.

 

Let me explain. For many years, I would get a job offer and I would just take it, no matter what the pay was or the job. I did not place much value on my skills and abilities so I never asked for much. I was also taught to just take what you can get and just deal with it. “Make do,” as my mother would say. As a result, I ended up working for people who had no respect for me and who treated me as such.

 

In all of those years, I felt used and quite terrible about it.  I never really knew why because I never thought about it much. It all felt really wrong though. I was told to work hard and just do my job so I did just that for years on end.  Another phenomenon that I experienced during that was was regarding the quality of my work. The better my work was, the more work they gave me. Not pay, not respect, just more work.

 

And I get it. I was easy to take advantage of back then because I didn’t know any better.  I thought that maybe this was the way the world worked.

 

Now, a few years ago, I began to experience an awakening of sorts.  Maybe that wasn’t the way the world worked. I started writing full time, I started a business and I left my previous career behind me….

 

Or so I thought.

 

As I stepped into a more creative role and found my tribe, I’ve found such joy and happiness. I can’t imagine not being in this business, doing what I do now, writing and creating cool and amazing stuff cause deep down, it feels right and I love it.

 

What doesn’t feel right at this moment, however, is the fact that I keep allowing people to take advantage of me, my generosity, skills and talent.

 

Yes, I am taking responsibility for allowing it to happen because I am nice and I want to help as many people as I can be successful and live the life of their dreams. I’ve spent hours working on projects for people and not asked for money because I trusted them and believed that they valued me and my work and eventually, they would pay me. I was always afraid to bring up money and ask for money.

 

How very wrong I have been.

 

My time is precious to me. When I spend time working for someone be it as a writer or a producer or director and I don’t get paid, it hurts me…emotionally and financially.  When I think about all of the hours I have spent using my creativity and skills to help someone create or promote or make something awesome, I get angry because had they hired someone else, they would have paid them.

 

So….when I think about hiring someone to do something for me, no matter what it is, I want to pay them because they have spent time and used their skill and talent to help me in some way. I would never expect a plumber or mechanic to work on my house or my car for free.  What makes it ok to not pay someone (aka me) who is creating something for someone else to use to better their life or business?  Creative writing is work and it has value.

 

 

So with that being said, I am not going to work for free anymore. My time is valuable. My skills, abilities and creativity are valuable. I cannot pay my bills with ” thank you’s” and “I appreciate you”.  I am valuable and what I do creatively has value.

 

If you want to hire me, great, however, from this moment forward, do not expect me to work for free.  I will speak up, write a contract and ask to be paid. I am drawing my line in the sand and setting a boundary.

And that’s the bottom line.

 

How Did I Get Here

How did I get here?

 

I used to wonder if I got ‘here’ by accident or if it was my own doing.

 

And ‘here’…where is ‘here’ exactly?

 

Well, ‘here’ is my home. My house, in my office with the computer, surrounded by two of my cats who insist on ‘helping’ me work (eg walking about on my desk, sitting on my mouse pad and staring at me while I type).

 

‘Here’ means other things as well.

 

I now work for myself creating and doing what I want to do.

 

I no longer punch a clock every day and work in a lab. I don’t spend all day on the phone chasing leads and pitching strangers. I also do not walk around a sales floor, chatting with customers to help them find what they need in the shop.

 

‘Here’ is freedom.

‘Here’ is openness.

‘Here’ is mine.

 

See, just over two years ago, my journey to ‘here’ really began when I found myself unemployed again and struggling to understand how in the hell I managed to get myself fired….again. I was a good employee. I had skills and did a good job, yet I was no longer wanted. I was labeled trouble and sent on my way.

 

Truth is though, I never liked that job or the people I worked for or with so really, it was a blessing to get fired.

 

Yes, I hated my job….

 

Now what does that have to do with ‘here’…..

 

Well, I felt like I was in a sort of free fall after being let go….a ‘what the fuck do I do now with my life?’ now sort of place.

 

And I had questions….Why did this happen again? What part did I play? What did I do wrong and right? How can I make my life better in the future? And so forth and so on….

 

As I sought to answer those questions, I discovered the Law of Attraction through a movie of all things, ‘ The Secret’ and I wondered……

 

Could this be the answer? Have I been manifesting all of my life and not knowing it? Bringing things into my life that I didn’t necessarily want (or did I?)

 

I hated that job and for months would ruminate on getting fired….
then it happened!

 

When I made that connection, it was like someone opened the dark clouds and the sun shone directly on me.

 

So what did I do next?

 

I studied, I learned. I applied what I learned about the Law of Attraction.

 

And now, well I’m ‘here’…..

 

When I look back over the past 2 years, I have manifested so many awesome things in my life. Things that I never would have thought possible back when I was still punching a clock.

 

For example:

 

I haven’t had a regular job in over 2 years.
I work from home.
I work for myself.
I set my schedule.
Money shows up when I need it.
I create and write and do what I want to do.
I study and am trying to learn as much as I can.

 

I live the Law of Attraction!

 

And you can too!

 

You can create your own ‘here’, whatever that may be. It’s your life.

 

Where are you? Do you like where you are?

 

If you aren’t happy with your ‘here’, learn how to use the Law of Attraction to manifest what you want in my latest e-course, Dream It! Feel It! Have It!

XOXO,

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Go With The Flow!

Go with the flow!

You ever feel like you are pushing and pulling in your life? Following systems, doing what others say you HAVE to do to achieve your dreams and have success? Are you trying to force something to happen your life or business?

 

Just stop. Stop what you are doing and go with the flow!

 

 

YOUR flow
YOUR rhythm!

 

Tune the others out and listen to your heart and find your own flow.

 

Lately I have been feeling very irritated.  Bugged. Annoyed.

 

When I get online and start working, I am fine as long as I stay off of social media meaning, I have to stay off of the internet.  When I get on social media, I get distracted and start reading other people’s shit. No matter where I go online, I see crap like this!

 

“Don’t stop! Don’t give up! Be yourself!  Stay plugged in!  Do the work!  Stop whining! Work until your fingers bleed! Give up everything and work work work!!  Ignore your life/family/friends! If you want to be successful, you have to [fill in the blank]”

 

And I am fucking sick of it!

 

Why?

 

Because if I wanted to work 18 hours a day, I would have stayed in the laboratory where I had to clock in and out everyday, be on call and give of myself all of the time even when I didn’t want to.

 

Seriously.

 

I left that life behind and the reason I choose to work from home and for myself is so that I don’t have to work 18 hours a day, 70 hours a week or more.

 

Just because I do not work all day, take a day off now and again and seek balance in my business and my life does not mean I am not dedicated or do not want to be successful.

 

I am dedicated.  Very dedicated to my writing. Very dedicated to helping others.

 

I work everyday and I do take time off . Now I don’t necessarily publish all that I write, but I am here, every day.

 

I strive to live a balanced and happy life, one in which my business is a part of, but not the ONLY thing I do.

 

So what’s with me getting so annoyed by the shit online that I keep reading and why in the hell do I keep reading it when it bothers me?

 

Because I let it and because I keep reading it like an idiot!

 

Yep.

 

I am taking responsibility for my actions and feelings and getting annoyed by other people’s advice is my fault.
So today I am choosing something different!

 

Fuck what they have to say! Fuck what they are doing! Seriously!

 

I have my own flow, my own rhythm and I run my business and my life how I see fit.

 

Go with the flow….your flow…whatever it may be!

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Some Thoughts About Fear From a Super Bok-Bok Chicken

Did you see the size of that chicken?

No really!  Did you?

Probably not, but I am the chicken.  The super big bok bok chicken that is bopping around a big field with no reason or purpose, squawking away at things I need to get done, but am putting off and procrastinating.

So why does this happen?  How can I go from being super confident and productive to being a bok bok super chicken?

One word:

FEAR

Yep.

I said it.

I’ll say it again.

FEAR

I freaking hate it when I get fearful cause really, most of the time whatever I am afraid of usually isn’t even anything real like gun to my head or a lion chasing me.  Seriously!

Fear paralyzes me.  Fear distracts me.  Fear turns me into a big fat bok bok chicken who scurries away and doesn’t get the things that need to get done, done….and I can be really good at being a chicken.

So mm…how do I deal with my fear? How do I feel my fear and still get shit done?

Well, first of all, I acknowledge it.  I say “Hello, Fear.  How are you today? I hope you are doing fine.” Then I offer it a cup of tea.

Then, I let myself feel it.  Like really feel it in my skin and bones.  I let it hang out a while.  I know that people will say that fear should be banished, but I don’t think it does.  I believe we need to give ourselves permission to feel it and let it be. It’s part of who we are. Eventually, using love, kindness and dream energized action, I ask it to leave once it’s sat down and had it’s cup of tea.

The next part of dealing with fear involves action.  Dream energized action. I move forward and get to work.  I get into dream energized action. I start doing stuff that is inspired by my dream created life. Some of the things I do are small things.  Some are more monumental. The point is that I get into action and I do something!! It may seem forced at first, but eventually the fear lessens and  dissipates like fog does in the sun. I always feel so good when that happens and I swear, it gets easier each time to move forward and get shit done despite feeling fear.

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Jump into dream energized action!

For me, my dream energized action takes different shapes. Sometimes that means spending an hour or two writing a blog or working on my book.  Last week, despite a shitload of fear and many bok bok super chicken moments, I wrote a bunch of emails to people I wanted to interview for my latest article.  Other times, I reach out and ask for help and support in one of the forums I belong to.

The point is, it’s ok to have fear and  be a bok bok chicken for a moment.  Fear shows up in all of our lives, it hangs around and keeps us from getting shit done.  If you allow it to just chill for time with a bit of permission,  it will leave once you’ve chosen to jump into dream inspired action.

So if you are feeling like a super bok bok chicken, don’t fret!  It’s only temporary!  Find something, even ONE thing that you can work on today with dream energized action.






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