Imagine Your Dreams Coming True

Just imagine all of your dreams coming true.  Seriously, take a moment right now, close your eyes and let your dream flood your consciousness.  Now open your eyes and see how much of your dream is actually part of your reality now. Don’t worry if you struggle with this part cause you can always change it.

Your dream is never out of reach

I found a gem in my email this morning.  My publisher has sent me a proof for the upcoming re-release of my previous books. It may seem like an innocuous event, but for me, it’s a dream come true.

Years ago, I wanted to be a writer. I had stories in my head, but because of the job and career I was in, I always felt that it was improper and downright silly for me to want to be a writer. Microbiology was my career and my life.  Nothing more, nothing less.

Once upon a time, I had a blog back in 2007 which was successful, but I never considered myself a writer. Not a real writer anyway. My mind and heart were closed off to the possibility of being anything else.

Years later when I discovered The Law of Attraction, I decided I needed to go for my dreams on a big level because I wasn’t happy just being a scientist. Becoming and being a writer was part of that dream so I wrote.  I started with one blog and one book. Then I started another blog (this one) and more books.  I wrote e-courses too and sold them. When I moved back to Albuquerque, I was asked to write a script for a movie (several actually) and now…I’m a writer.

Now what does my story have to do with your dream?

Had I not allowed myself to dream my dream, I would have stayed exactly where I was, in the lab.  My businesses and writing career would not exist today. Nothing in my life would have changed and I’d probably still be working in a laboratory somewhere.

The other thing I had to do was get into action which meant writing everyday.  I put myself on a serious schedule and I did just that; I wrote everyday.

All of this all started with my dream.

Now I am celebrating today because I have a publisher and a proof for a book cover. It is a dream come true for me.

I’m still dreaming too. I don’t think I’ll ever stop because I want to share with everyone what I’ve learned along the way. I have another book in the works (announcements will be made closer to the release date).

Now just imagine all your dreams coming true.

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3 Reasons Why I Love Monday

In my last post, I talked about why I love Friday. As a follow up to that, I thought this post was appropriate. 3 reasons why I love Monday.


It’s the start of the week and I’m sitting here in my office with sparkles in my eyes.  Yeah, corny I know, but absolutely true. Monday is one of my favorite days of the week because the possibilities are endless for the week. I work from home and after the weekend has ended, Monday signals the beginning of my work week and as a result, I end up working more on Monday than I do any other day of the week.


Here’s why I love Monday (and why you should too)

Monday is #1


Not in the sense that it won a race and came in first, but it is the first day of the new week.  Think about it as a new beginning cause it is. Businesses reopen. Everyone is rested from the weekend. It’s #1! I love Monday because I always get so much done after slacking around all weekend and having fun.


It’s a great time to start projects


If you’ve spent your weekend partying or resting, Monday is the day to begin a new project. I usually start scripts or chapters of books on Monday because it’s when I’m the most rested and usually raring to go. The first day of the week is my powerhouse day for writing so I take advantage of it whenever I can.


It’s a great day to look forward


Not only is it a great day to start a project, it’s a great day to make plans for your week or month or whatever. The start of the week is when I chart out my week of writing and other work related duties.  I sometimes like to figure out what I’m going to do for the weekend too. Planning usually takes up a good chunk of my time on Monday and I look forward to it every week. I make plans to write, work out and do what I need to do to keep my life and business in order.


So that’s why I love Monday.


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It’s Ok to Not Know

July was a crazy month for me.  So much happened in one month and now that it’s August, I feel like I’m trying to find my footing again.  I don’t feel lost per se, but I do feel like there are a billion things to do and I gotta choose just one.   Just one!  And I do not know which one to choose…..Bahh….

I feel like Indiana Jones  when he has to pick one cup from the others and it’s gotta be the right one or …well, if you’ve seen the movie, you know what happens.

So how do I choose?  How do I choose the right project to focus on?

Maybe this is the universe telling me that it’s ok to not know right now and to take some time off and get back to  my groovy happy zone and flow.

Last month was such a whirlwind of ups and downs. Between movie shoots, trips to the lake, my directorial debut and a bunch of other personal things,  the dust from all of that excitement and adventure has settled and I sort of don’t know what to do. Of course, I have a huge laundry list of shit to take care of and I know what I should be doing, but honestly, I don’t feel like doing any of it right now. Why that is, I have no idea and that is ok.

I give myself permission to not know.

It is ok to not know and not have all of the answers all of the time. Sometimes I need to sit and feel what I need to do next.  I know, sounds crazy, but it’s true.  Ever since I started to lead my business and my writing with my heart instead of my head, it’s gone so much smoother and has been better overall.

My scripts will always be here, waiting patiently for me to work on them. The rest of the business stuff, it will be here too. I know this is temporary and shall pass because it always does.




Rebuilding, Decluttering and Insanity

Rebuilding, Decluttering and Insanity

Today marks the nearly half way point of December. Half way through the month and I have been busy. Busy decluttering and rebuilding my life here in New Mexico.


For those of you that don’t know, when I moved back here in October, I came home to a house that was destroyed and trashed by my younger brother. I had an inkling that the house was in bad shape, but I had no idea how awful it really was until I walked through the front door.


Since that time, my father and I have been working diligently to clean up the mess and restore what was fucked up.


And it’s been work.


Hard, physical and sometimes heartbreaking work, but we are doing it. Every weekend, he shows up and we work on the house.


Like the hardwood floors that all needed to be stripped, sanded and refinished and the walls that all needed to be cleaned, patched and painted.


I love it when it gets done cause it’s so beautiful and clean, but damn, I get tired of working on it. Some days, it makes me sad that my brother cared so little for my house and in some ways it makes me feel that he doesn’t care about me or the rest of the family. Other times when we work on the house, I feel sadness that he is so messed up and I miss the person he used to be. I hope and pray that the sweet boy I grew up with is somewhere there buried within the horrific and destructive person who destroyed my home. And then there are the feelings of happiness I get when we finish something like the floors and walls and it looks so great and awesome.


I think the term for this cacophony of feelings is insanity.


Anyway….so there is the house. From the destruction, she is being rebuilt.


Then there is my life in the boxes. The boxes from oh-so-long ago, like 15+ years, of my stuff that I never really unpacked when I bought the house because back then they just were not a priority. Now, I’ve started to go through them.


I am calling this the great decluttering part 2 of 2015. It’s the end of the year and well, I had no idea what was even in many of the boxes because they’ve been packed up for so long.


Going through them so far has stirred up a bunch of emotions for me too.


Yay! More insanity!


The big questions that keep coming up are “Why did I keep some of the things I kept all these years? What stuff do I keep now? How can I free myself from being such a packrat? Maybe I should just accept that I am a packrat and love myself anyway.”


So my former life in boxes. Some of them are filled with wondrous memories and love. Others, not so much….but I am going through them, sorting and keeping some things that I really love and giving away other things that just do not serve me or that I do not like.
So I’ve been busy.  Busy and insane. I am nearly done writing another book and I am writing out my plans for next year. My office is nearly finished and once I get my new desk, I will be moving into that room and turning it into my sacred space for creativity and awesomeness.


So that’s where I am at today. Decluttering, rebuilding and insanity.


What are you up to?


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It’s in The Plan

It’s been a busy month to stay the least over here. Busy and fun. I turned 43, my living room is nearly finished and I’m back to writing everyday again.


Now the month is over and it’s time to close out November and get ready for December and all the frivolity that only comes this time of the year. I’m not a huge Christmas fan, but I do like this time of year. I love it cause I like to look back at the following 11 months and see what I’ve accomplished and experienced, good and bad. I also love it because it’s the time of the year that I spend dreaming up my big dreams and goals for the year ahead.


Now it’s interesting that I didn’t always do that, plan. I have always been a sort of fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants sort of gal, flitting from one project to another, one job to another or whatever. I guess I am a bit like a butterfly in that respect.


But anyway…..planning. I used to hate it. Now I can’t live with out planning.


Planning and setting goals is sooo important. I always thought that it was enough to have my goals and plans in my head. It wasn’t enough though because I never got shit done. I would accomplish some things, but other things would get forgotten and well….that’s no fun.


So that’s where I am at today. Planning my December. Working on a huge project at the time that involves creating a planner for 2016 that I can use throughout the year (and will eventually be selling), writing a book, and working on the house. It’s a beautiful thing and


It’s in the plan!

What’s in your plan today? Do you have one? How do you feel about planning and goal setting?


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Success and Freedom in Life: An Interview with Karen Strunks

I say this all the time because I really mean it, but I love what I do because it brings me in contact with amazing women like the one featured in today’s interview, Karen Strunks.  When I came across her and her blog, I was instantly drawn to both her, her writing, her life story and what she does.  She’s absolutely amazing, successful and nice!  I could gush on and on about her, but I’ll shut up and let her take it away!


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Karen Strunks


I’ve been reading your blogs for a while and I’m always amazed by your story. Could you share a little bit about who you are and how you came to be where you are now, doing what you are doing?

I come from a very traditional, aka boring, background of doing 9-5 office work. It sucked the soul out of me and made me very depressed. One day, after 10 years being in the same job, I walked out and decided to take control of my life and that started my pursuit of life of freedom. I began my entrepreneurial career 9 years ago as a dominatrix; an alternative career choice but with hindsight it was not surprising I chose to do empowering work where I was the boss. It was liberating. I had a taste of freedom, doing what I loved and making money on MY terms.


From there I went on to become a professional photographer, which in turn, led me to embracing the world of social media and sharing my experience and expertise in that area. Today I help freedom seekers and entrepreneurs create a life and business exactly on their terms, doing what they love and making the money that they want. No compromise.


It’s been an incredible nine years. There’s been travel, adventure, working with global brands, giving lectures at universities, speaking in front of audiences of 400+ at conferences and receiving global press on tv, radio, newspapers and magazines, all the while following my passions and helping people.


What are the 3 biggest lessons you have learned being an entrepreneur that you wish everyone knew before they started their business?

Follow your own rules, trust your instincts and act on inspiration.


Never, EVER, fear failure.


Success and making money is as much about mindset than it is about taking action. More so in fact.


When I see you photos and read your stuff, I sometimes wonder, does she ever have a bad day? Ha ha….So what do you do when you have an off or bad day? How do you break through that?

Haha! Sure, I do have days that aren’t as brilliant as others, or days when I feel frustrated by having such high ambitions and things aren’t happening fast enough, or just the odd ‘off’ day, but they aren’t that common. I work on my mindset and positivity every single day so I am able to get out of more ‘negative’ moods quite quickly. Besides, if I start moaning about it, I’ll just be entering into victim/martyr mode and spreading that negativity to other people, and where’s the good in that!


If I have something to share of a less negative nature, such this post about a bad relationship, Be Careful Who You Let In When You Are Feeling Weak. I tie it in with a lesson or something inspiring or motivating so it’s of use to the reader and it not just me having a pity party.


From where I stand, you are very very successful. I want to be like you. How do you quantify and celebrate your success?

How I quantify success; can I do what I want, with who I want, when I want, where I want? Can I wear what I want? Can I set my own schedule? Am I following my passions? Am I in complete control of my life and destiny and not answerable to anyone?


If the answer is YES to those questions, I am successful.


The bottom line, before the more material, outward signs of success (though I am VERY money positive and encourage wealth creation) is FREEDOM. That’s what drives me. That’s what success is to me.


I don’t really stop to celebrate! I’m always moving forward. Perhaps I should have some celebrations!


What has been the most rewarding thing for you since launching your own business? What has been the most disappointing thing?

The most rewarding thing is that I have done it, and I am still doing it. They say it’s not the goal that matters but who you become in pursuit of that goal. Never a truer word spoken! It’s been a roller coaster. I’ve been tested. I’ve held on when it’s felt like my world has been crumbling. I’ve withstood what would make most people run back to the ‘safety’ of a job. Would I do it all again. YES. Even the hard times have been rewarding!


Working with people to build their dream business and helping them to change their lives is incredibly rewarding. My clients do the work and I think I get more excited about their success than they do lol.


Disappointing thing… Hmmm. I’m not sure. I don’t tend to focus on the negative. If something doesn’t work out I just move on quickly.


What’s the best advice you have for someone like me who may be struggling a bit, but still shows up everyday and does the work?

If you don’t give up, you cannot fail. Keep taking action in the direction of your goals. Base your decision on where you want to be, not where you are now or your circumstances. On a practical level, offer something awesome for sale every day, reach new audiences, and make sure that you are on track, following your passions, working with people you love hanging out with and having fun!


What is the biggest motivating factor for you in life and business?

Freedom. That’s it.


What is your favorite or best client/customer story?

Oh, it’s hard to pick a favourite! I’ll pick a recent one. In the words of my client…


‘I was thinking about how appreciative I am for your support. You have been a true life changer for me!’


This is from a client who is committed to doing what it takes for as long as it takes. She has incredible tenacity and it’s a privilege to work with her. But that’s what I do, help people change their lives.


How can my readers find you and connect with you?

I’m everywhere! lol.

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Tweet me at @karenstrunks

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An Interview with Cera Daniels, A Fellow Writer (like me!)

One of the best parts of my job (if you could even call it that cause it’s just so much damn fun it should be illegal) is meeting and connecting with so many awesome creative souls like the lady featured in my latest interview.  Cera Daniels is a writer, like me, and in this interview she shares a bit about what her life is like as a writer.  She’s amazing and I’m glad to call her my friend.


Here’s what Cera had to say!


Hi Cera! Can you tell me a little bit about your life as a writer?

Sure thing, Tobi!! My schedule looks a bit different than a “routine” because I work around both a four year old and intermittent chronic pain–both of which can be just as demanding as my books!  J  To work on my health this year I transitioned from my day job and into the role of full-time writermommy, and though it’s been an adjustment for our house (and definitely tough on my budget-mind), I absolutely love it.


Instead of squeezing a mish-mash of words-at-any-cost into my lunch breaks and laaaate at night, a typical day now means I get to do crafty things with my daughter, fit in a yoga session and a gentle walk, write 2,000 words I can feel great about, cook dinner that may or may not be burned (ooooh yeah, I’m still learning!), and score a full night of sleep.


I still get stressed about deadlines and scenes not going right, of course!  Hubby takes the little one on Saturdays and on tough weeks there’s daycare time so she can hang out with friends and I can buckle down and make things shiny.


It’s part-domestic, part-determination, very happy-making, MUCH healthier than my workaholic-driven 60-80 hour weeks (I now work about 44 and take holidays!).  I get to take care of my family in a way I never gave myself time for before, plus I get to give my words the space they need to flourish.



What is your background? Have you always been a writer?

I wrote my first book, about a sheep who ran away to live in a playground, in kindergarten. My drawing skills are still at the same level they were then, but I’d like to think my stories kept evolving. 😀


The encouragement I got then carried me through high school–short stories on the backs of spelling tests, stories instead of straight-forward reports, personalized adventures for my friends to read, etc. I had AMAZING teachers who not only put up with my creative shenanigans, but also nourished my muse and I love them for it! In college I stopped writing fun stuff for anyone but myself.  It was a discouraging environment for the worlds in my head.  Folks wanted contemporary, gritty, literary, real.


I see enough of the real world in my daily life and frustrating news feeds:  I wanted fun, adventurous, romantic, on-a-spaceship, out-of-this-galaxy.  Or sky pirates.  Or superheroes with powers that don’t always work right.  All of the above. (ed. note: ALL of my faves, btw!)  And I figured, hey: others might want to get comfortably lost in stories like that for a little while too.
I’ve been a Copy Editor for 12 years and a Technical Writer for 8, and once in the office job realm, I let my muse free.  It was hungry!  I wrote 15 novels and novellas while working the day job, while pregnant, while nursing and writing manuals and running conference calls and trainings, while coaching other writers during NaNoWriMo.  (Whew! Did I mention those workaholic tendencies?)


What compelled you to start writing?

I grew up an avid reader…and I was running out of the things I loved to read.  No one was telling those stories fast enough, or the library didn’t have them yet.  There were other tales beginning to swim in my head, characters begging to be heard.  So when I first started writing from Once Upon a Time to The End, I wrote those stories for myself.


As a writer myself, inspiration can be found anywhere! Where do you find your ideas and inspiration for stories?

I love ideas! And you’re right, they’re everywhere!  My top go-to jams:


People-watching (literally everywhere)

Documentaries or crazy science articles (did you know there’s now a robot that dissolves in water?  YES!  Muse explosion!!)

During the research I should have been doing (read: getting lost down the rabbit hole on Wikipedia or TV Tropes)

And pictures (I love cruising Pinterest and DeviantArt and recently was introduced to “moodboards” on Tumblr which…is dangerous if I want to get ANYTHING else done that day other than spark character concepts)


What do you like best and enjoy most about writing?

I love the moment when I’ve written something new that, in the moment, feels utterly brilliant. A dialogue line or description that lights me up and makes me want to dance around my office.  (Which I of course do, while cackling maniacally.  Which is another reason I don’t write in coffeeshops.)


How do you feel about writers block? Real or imaginary? (I think it’s imaginary! Ha ha)

The only real writer’s blocks are burnout and depression.  If those are behind it, there are folks who can help, and no matter how much you might want to fight it, it is true: addressing those things WILL bring the muse back. <3


The more common writer’s block we can sometimes be prone to lean on is both an excuse not to sit down and get stuff done (priorities!), and an excuse to drain our energy by staring at a screen and convincing ourselves beyond a shadow of a doubt that we CANNOT.  We’re harder on our muses than anyone else could possibly be.


Some ways out for those of us stuck in that mindset:

1: Stop lying to ourselves (have we not typed a sentence before??).

2: Give ourselves permission to be imperfect in that blank space!

3: Switch up mediums (because our muses really do like to play with pen and paper).

4: Move, even for just 5 minutes.  If the brain has no bloodflow because we’re sitting in one place doing all that staring, how’s it supposed to find the energy to toss creative thoughts around?


I’m not a fiction writer (yet), because it seems like it would be really hard to keep stories straight. How do you overcome the challenge of writing fiction?


Sticky notes. Color coded. Everywhere. Once, in the middle of drafting the novel I have coming out in December, my husband woke up with one stuck to the side of his face.
I was banned from plotting in bed after that.
Now, they all go on one of those big tri-fold foam boards (the kind you might see on display at science fairs) and after that get organized in both OneNote and Scrivener.


How can my readers find you and your stories?

My website is or you can follow me on Facebook and/or Twitter

My Books:

Vigilante Mine: (My favorite review so far has compared this paranormal romance to “Kate Beckett (from Castle) + Batman”!)  Available for Kindle

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Tiger’s Catch: Shifter romance! Preorder here or find it on Amazon on August 10, 2015




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Is there anything else you’d like to share with my readers?

How about a free book?  🙂  Tiger’s Catch comes out on August 10th, and I’d love to get a copy into one of your lovely readers’ hands!

5 AM Dream Created Life

It’s 5 AM.  5 AM on a Sunday morning and I should probably be in bed, sleeping in.  I’m not however.  I’m awake, well rested and felt like writing a blog so I’m writing.  I love that.

I’ll probably take a nap later after I’ve gone out and run some errands. Who knows.  It’s nice though, to have this kind of freedom.  The freedom to do what I want when I want.  Living like this IS a Dream created life.

I remember a time when getting up or being up this early in the morning meant rushing around after being forced awake by an alarm.  I’d be rushed around, showering, getting ready, hunting for car keys, grabbing something to do for breakfast before hitting the road to go to work.

I do not miss those days.

Now getting up this early means spending that extra time in bed to just lie there warm and cosy,  or spending time petting and cuddling with the cats.  Other times it’s means spending an hour or longer picking out and cooking breakfast.  Most days it means getting up and getting to work which for me is writing and there is no rush, no panic.  Just me and my freedom.

It is a dream created life.


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A Beauty and Love Filled Day

Today is one of those amazing beautiful days here in New England.  The sun is shining, there aren’t any clouds in the sky and the temperature is just right, not too hot nor too cold. I was looking out one of my windows out towards the little creek that runs behind my house, and I saw a young deer drinking from the stream.  It was beautiful. I love days like this because I can open the windows and let the lovely cool breeze flow into the house. It’s a beauty and loved filled day.

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A beauty and loved filled day as seen from my back door

I’m working on a new manuscript, putting the finishing touches on it so I can get it out to you, my dear readers.  I love writing and this new book, I’ve written it from my heart about something that I am so passionate about.  I’m excited to finish it because I am excited to publish it so it can help people.

It’s a funny thing, being a writer. I love being a writer. I never knew how much I loved writing until I made the decision to become.  It was a choice and one that I am really glad I made. I’ve always been a writer in my heart, but I never pursued it because I had chosen a particular career path that didn’t support or include being creative or writing.

Now that I’ve left that career behind and since I’ve started practicing the Law of Attraction and made the decision to be a writer, I get to pursue it with relentless fervor, passion and love. I now wake up in the morning with a fire in my heart and a joy for my life that I’ve never had before.  I hope that everyone gets to feel that way when they wake up in the morning and set out to do whatever it is they are going to do.

So with that said, my manuscript is calling. I hope you all have a beautiful, passion and love filled day!