You ever heard that old saying “Don’t make assumptions because you make an ASS out of YOU and ME”? (If you don’t believe me, check this out! Ass + U + Me = Assume)Well, there is something to that old saying and making assumptions.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
Very often in my life, I have found myself assuming more than I knew. I remember when I used to work a traditional job, that anytime the boss would want to have a meeting, I would become really anxious and worried that it was about something ‘bad’. That ‘bad’ thing could be anything and everything from me having to talk to another employee about something or having to fess up to a mistake that I made or …? Who knew. All I knew was that I would always assume that the meeting was in regards to something that would be uncomfortable and make me feel like shit in one way or another.
Now, I could talk about how I was manifesting a horrible meeting with the Law of Attraction and maybe on some level that is true, but that’s not what this post is about.It’s about the assumption. Making assumptions overall generally only makes me feel shitty. I can become so worried and my mind ends up spiraling out of control with ‘what if’ situations. This is how the dialog would go in my head:”What if I get yelled at? What if I get written up? What if I lose my job? What if I have to move? What if , what if, what if…..” and on and on and on until I had an unnecessary anxiety attack or some other physical malady like a migraine.
So I’ve learned not to make assumptions. These days, I catch myself now and again making assumptions about random stuff, but I’ve realized that making assumptions is not a very fun or happy way to live. When I make assumptions I am saying “Hey, I control the universe and I know everything there is to know about everything!” which is absolute bullshit.
I’ve also come to the conclusion that making assumptions is akin to being a predictor of the future. Hmm…last time I checked, I’m not a psychic and I don’t know how to use a crystal ball. No one can predict the future.
It’s best to live in the NOW! Today I can live for today without making assumptions about what may or may not happen in the future.