Last week, I had the pleasure of interviewing one of the many amazing women from one of the business groups I’m in. Her name is Morgan Nichols, creator and owner of Wild Motherhood.
When I first heard of Wild Motherhood I was intrigued even though I am not a mother myself, I think I’d like to be a wild mother! Wild Motherhood sounded like fun to me so I interviewed her to learn more about Wild Motherhood.
What is Wild Motherhood?
Wild mothering is about bringing all of us alive, including our lives as mothers. It’s about integration and wholeness, fun, sacred-ness and discovery. The part of you that is wild and free; the spiritual seeker; the creative explorer: all of them deserve to be heard and lived. Wild motherhood is about being in touch with your emotions and not making any of your feelings – or anything about yourself – wrong. Stepping out of limited boxes and dialoguing with your guilt. Saying, ‘I’m going to carve out some time for me, and nurture myself’, knowing that this is as essential as caring for your family. And sharing that with your family: being you. It’s about creating your own definitions of what a great family life looks like, your own ideas of ‘a good mother’. Plugging into our natural self and into all the excitement and enthusiasm that is there already. It can look like: connecting with nature, dancing wildly around the kitchen, making messy sculptures and paintings, telling the truth, writing and journaling, making up songs with your children – the possibilities are limitless! You can read the Wild Mother Manifesto here – a printable poster is coming soon.
What is your background?
I have a background in counseling, psychology and working with women, both one-to-one and in group settings. I’ve always written fiction, poetry, and a bit more recently non-fiction too. I love music, singing, nature and 5 Rhythms dance, yoga and meditation. Having my son, now 7, has been a huge part of my spiritual and creative journey. I’ve been on my own with my son since he was nearly 2, and that is also something I like to share and write about – being a single mother is such a blessing in many ways despite all the challenges.
How did you get started with Wild Motherhood?
It started with the idea to interview inspiring ‘mother mentors’ – mothers who are active creatively and spiritually – and write a book based on that. For several years I have been running writing workshops and groups for mothers, and love using the tool of reflective and creative writing to help mothers investigate their inner worlds. To see them use the group as a safe place to explore and be more honest than they’ve perhaps ever been. The concept of wild motherhood came as I searched for a book title. Then I started my blog and decided to offer coaching services to mothers, to help them get in touch with their creativity and soul-life in the midst of their busy mama lives.
What inspired you to write your ebook/blog/courses about Wild Motherhood?
I was fascinated by seeing how mothers around me managed to keep their fires lit even when they were exhausted, overwhelmed, and utterly consumed by motherhood so much of the time. There was always a spark that just wouldn’t go out! And I realised I was one of those mothers too 🙂 So, the book was about getting inspiration, tips and hints to share with the wider world of mothers out there, and also processing my own journey. I trawled through all my old journals – painful sometimes! – to find gems from my own experience of earlier mothering. My academic background means that I have a natural bent towards research – digging to find out more just because I want to know! I was inspired to develop the coming Wild Motherhood E-Course when I realised that I could reach a lot more women than just in my small workshop groups – I love the idea of mothers all over the world using the tools I’ve developed to expand their connection and commitment to themselves.
What has been your best experience or story about Wild Motherhood?
I coached a single mother of two recently, who used to come to my writing groups for mums. She had been feeling blocked and stuck with her writing and wanted to move forward. She gave me this feedback: “The mentoring course was so affirming: Morgan’s gentle support and guidance helped me to begin to value myself as an individual on my own creative path, rather than just being a mum, as well as giving me lots of inspiring ideas and valuable pointers based on where my interests lay at the time. It has really widened my perspective on myself and my capabilities, and was great fun trying out the new ideas and suggestions, particularly because Morgan was so responsive to my developing personal needs and motivations over the whole course, which made the overall experience very empowering.”
Creativity and Motherhood. What a combination! I can see how these two topics sort of go hand in hand from my own upbringing by an artist mother who tended to do her own thing when it came to motherhood. What does creativity and Motherhood mean to you?
For me, creativity is part of the way I am. I’ve always been one to dance to my own drum. And being a mother was no different – as one friend who’s known me my entire life commented, ‘I was worried you wouldn’t be organised or practical enough to manage being a mom, but you are so good at it – you just do it in your way, and you’re very laid back.’ (Ha! If she could see me on some days…). And I don’t believe creativity is limited to ‘art’. It’s a way of being that is open to new possibilities, that is present in the moment, allowing life to flow through you. Whether that is in how you approach tricky discipline issues with your child, or planning meals, or meeting the different needs of your family in a way that everyone feels heard. I also believe being a mother has made me more creative in some ways – as I explore in my book, the desire for creativity is often greater when we have less time, because it forces us to focus and make the most of what we have. We can also become bolder, as mothers: I’ve done things I was scared to do before – like learn to play an instrument and sing for an audience, and running my own workshops.
Who do you believe can benefit from Wild Motherhood?
Mothers who feel their souls calling out for more space, but struggle to make that happen for themselves – whether that’s through meditation or other practices. Mothers who long to express themselves creatively – those who are just starting out, and those who want to get back to a path that’s been sidelined during the early mothering years. Mothers at any stage who want to be real and tell it like it is, without judgment. Who want to reclaim the parts of them that have felt a little lost or silenced in the relentlessness of caring for small beings, and who would like to be more authentic and alive with their children too. Mothers who want to be able to accept themselves more in all their imperfections, to have greater self-compassion and ditch the guilt. To be held in a safe supportive space where they can grow, learn and expand their potential.
What do you hope Wild Motherhood can do for others?
I hope that wild mothering can help women to be kinder to themselves, to feel more radiantly alive, and to connect up the dots of their lives. I hope they can get in touch with their feelings and needs, express these to others in their lives, and create structures that support them to regularly dive into their deeper, wilder selves.
Do you have a website or blog or anything else that you would like to share with my readers?
My website is Wild Motherhood – you can find my blog on there too. I’m giving away a free E-book, ‘Creative Fuel for Wild Mothers’, to new subscribers. You can read the Wild Mother Manifesto here, a printable poster is coming soon, my Wild Motherhood E-Course is coming out in the autumn, and I will also have a monthly subscription coaching group for mamas who want to take it further.